WIBU - to get my own back after asking Neighbours to turn their music down

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Friday night our neighbour had a big LOUD birthday party in her garden, professional caterers, cocktail van, DJ, a lot of people. We live in a new build estate, all very close to each other and 80% of the people living around us have babies and children under 10. It was so so very loud that in our house, with all the triple glazed windows shut, it still felt and sounded like we were in a night club. Our little kids were up til midnight, the youngest crying in tiredness. But we let it go, (even when it got to the drunk screechy singing/shouting phase at 11:30!) as it doesn't happen very often, people are allowed birthday parties. We just felt a bit put out as normally everyone in the community is lovely and considerate and if there is going to be a party they come around and warn each other and make their apologies before hand etc. Not this lady.

Then: Sunday afternoon, starting about 3pm she has another party. We think, hopefully it's an afternoon thing, as again, she has god knows how many people in the garden (another neighbour counted 30 as their loft room looked right down into the garden), along with very loud night club style dance music pumping through the estate, etc etc.

We were getting really annoyed when again the kids couldn't get to sleep and we couldn't even hear our own tv so at 8pm I went around and I really really nice wished her happy birthday but said, please switch the music off now please, and told her I can't have another night of crying babies/children, and considering her location, surrounded by other families could she be kinder?

She turned it down slightly, for half an hour and then it got louder and louder again. We reported to the council noise line, they did nothing. Police Corona reporting line (for gatherings over 30), they did nothing.

Quite a few of of my other neighbours were all whatsapping each other bitching about the noise but no one else went around.

Was I the party pooper ask her to STFU (very politely) or is this just something you would accept living in this sort of location?

But more importantly - the question now: Would I be unreasonable to play Peppa Pig music on full blast at 5am outside her bedroom window tomorrow? (I wish I had today but we were exhausted)

If it's not a regular thing I would suck it up TBH. The fact that it's two events over the weekend, it seems likely that it is a big birthday or similar.

I also wouldn't be playing Peppa Pig at 5am, this would clearly be an antagonistic move and really makes you no better than her. As you all live in close confines, I would hope it was a one off event and life would return to its usual peaceful coexistence.

It's selfish behaviour, but if it's a birthday party it's hardly a regular event?

I wouldn't deliberately play music at her, but I certainly wouldn't be making any effort to keep my children quiet around them again.

I would.

In fact I’d warn other neighbours and put the music on a loop full blast and leave it for e few hours.

Yabu to 'get your own back '.
They won't care and it's childish

She’s been partying all night Friday and the all afternoon and into the night on Sunday.

That’s not a one off

We had this with a neighbour once. We waited till he was asleep then superglued his doorbell down. he had to take the batteries out to stop it.

Can;t say it helped the situation, but it made my Dad feel better.

As tempting as the Peppa Pig is it would mean you could never take the moral high ground stance over future incidents (if any do occur). Personally I think it's incredibly selfish to hold parties of that size with loud music outdoors well into the night- I wouldn't do it- especially not to give people notice. I certainly wouldn't be making any efforts in future to be considerate of that particular neighbour. Are either of your DCs old enough to relentlessly kick a football against a wall/fence for hours on end to amuse themselves.....?

I feel YABU. 11pm etc isn't that late as a one off.
We had our neighbours doing the same thing to 3am on Saturday there. They do it the same time every year so I assume it's a big birthday and suck it up. Just because you have children you can't expect everyone to be quiet from 8pm.

Now if it was every month even that'd be another matter.

You'd be daft and inviting a lot of future unpleasantness.

Just let it go. It’s not worth the aggro. If it becomes a regular thing then take note times pictures video and report report report until council or police do something

Don't get engaged in a tit for tat with your neighbours over one weekend. They may be prepared to escalate more than you are.

And if you get dragged into neighbour disputes, it will damage your chances of selling your property (and the value) should you decide to leave to get away from them.

If it becomes regular enough that it's causing real problems, speak to them (not when they're having a party). If that fails, do everything above board with the council / police / whoever, and don't stoop to their level.

Airhorn through the letterbox at 30 minute intervals

It's really hard not to retaliate, but if this happens again in the future and becomes more of a regular issue then you don't have a leg to stand on really. Monitor the noise, start a diary, see where it goes from there.

FWIW I'd probably want to do the same but with death metal.

I know it was probably a one off, but it’s beyond selfish to do something like this? What kind of entitled knob thinks it’s acceptable to have a fucking DJ in their back garden when they live on a housing estate?!
Cocktail van? Professional caterer?! Who the hell even does that? Especially during a pandemic.

Grown adults who make a huge fuss over birthdays are childish twats anyway IMO, so maybe I’m just a bit biased. But it’s a bit different to someone playing Spotify really loud and getting a bit rowdy isn’t it?

Councils won't do anything for a one-off party. You need to let it go.