Need some advice please regarding MIL....
We haven’t had a great relationship- she was ‘disappointed’ when we announced our Engagement and there has been a few occasions she has tried to interfere with the wedding and babies where we have had disagreements over the years but on speaking terms and normally ok.
We have now been married for 8 years and have a 5 and 2 year old but this last year me and DH have had some relationship problems and going through abit of a bit of a rough patch although trying to work through it. Multiple things really but basically hasn’t grown up and still wants to live a single life drinking every weekend and doing his hobbies while I take care of the kids, any way I finally lost the plot in lockdown as he didn’t help with kids at all, I had to work, homeschool, house work everything on my own while he locked himself in office cause his job is more important then me et.. and we had a massive row where I said if things didn’t improve then that would be it
Anyway obviously we have each talked to our parents but seems that MIL has taken a sides and since our argument has been nothing but rude to me. Because of lockdown have only seen her a handful of occasions but each time she has pretty much blanked me, she acts as if I’m invisible. For example she called down on Saturday, DH was out doing the front garden, she stayed an hour but just at the front of the house didn’t bob her head in to say hello. She knew I was in as I was with youngest DD. Then she called Sunday didn’t say hello on arrival, acted as though I was invisible, directs questions to DH about the children- are they going to bed yet Adam? What size clothes does she wear now Adam? I try to ignore it and just carry on but yday I had enough so I just walked out of the room and carried on with housework etc. I honestly feel like I’m invisible. This has gone on for a while there are numerous of occasions this is just an example. She quite often blanks me when I do talk she either looks at me like shite making me feel really uncomfortable or just talks over me. All communication regarding kid’s is via DH, we don’t get invited to family days out. Recently FIL MIL BIL SILs and grandkids all went to the coast we wasn’t asked to go and I can only assume it because of me. SIL doesn’t speak to me any more when I tried to arrange Play dates with cousins she doesn’t want to know. Other SIL is again the same only worst she doesn’t speak to me at all. Example here was at nephews party she said hello to both my daughter - hello DD1, you ok? but walked straight by me. I said hello she just didn’t speak at all!! I was so uncomfortable in house that afternoon it was horrible. DH doesn’t side for me He says that I am making it up! I Feel
Like I should ask his mum what her problem is but I know my DH won’t back me up so just like a waste of time but I don’t want to live like this plus with other problems it not helping feeling like giving up on it all and starting on my own with girls 😢