Baby favourite

[blastthepast]

My mum will regularly tell people her 4th child (my bro) was an accident, but now shes glad she had him as he is "the best of the bunch". This said in my and my siblings' earshot.
A friend's mum had her 3rd and said apparently "I'm really going to love this one"!
Is it a thing - that they youngest is unusually a face and mothers are unashamed to admit it?

I think it’s pretty common for the youngest to be “the baby” and treated like the favourite.

Saying openly that one is “the best” is a bit mean though.

This could be me posting, my parents fourth was a boy and he was hugely favoured and still is in his late 20s. I think it’s cruel, all children should be treated the same or don’t have them at all imo!

It's easier to sit and enjoy the third because you aren't learning How to be a parent (as with child one) or how to balance multiple children (as with child two).

Saying it in your earshot is pretty shitty though.

I think by the last one most people are definitely relaxed, have loosened their parenting styles and can actually just enjoy the child compared to the first.
Saying it with the other kids around is just not ok. I would reply with ha looks like they are the lucky one to take care of you in old age then.

My third of 4 always feels like the baby. Odd. I’d never dream of saying it to them though!

I'd say she's compensating for having called him an accident 5 seconds earlier.

Not for me, my youngest is like a wild wolf 😂

Sometimes I refer to my youngest as my 'bonus baby' but only because I was lucky to have him at 43! Prem /emcs and I had a suspected heart attack soon after the birth!
Tests revealed it wasn't but scarey times!. If my dc ask who is the favourite I tell them I hate them all equally!!

Yes, mother in law often highlights how lucky she was to have had my DP because his sister was "so demanding".
Strangely, his sister always seems so accommodating and keen to please his parents, yet my DP is quite the opposite.

5 in my family. We always knew that no 4 was my mother’s favourite and no 5 my father’s. But we all knew that we were loved very much.

Both of my dc ( now adults) know that the dog is my favourite , he is known as ‘the best child’ . I was the youngest of 3 and there was never any favourites with my parents .

I have 2 younger brothers and they were always clearly favoured, the middle by dad and youngest by mum. Mum doesn't have any shame in saying she prefers "her boys" its not nice to hear and has definitely made our relationship distant

Youngest boy syndrome is real. It is very clear for both me and DH (both eldest) and our younger brothers.

I'm the youngest of three, and the only girl. I was also unplanned.

I've always felt like a nuisance to my dad. We don't share interests so instead of trying to like the things I do, he tries to force the things he likes on me (such as a meal and a tour of his favourite football club for my birthday 🙄).

I think my mum had an idea of what having a daughter would be like and I don't live up to those expectations.

I'm definitely neither of their favourites.

I honestly don't think so. I love my 2 equally in different ways. They're both wonderful in different ways and both bloody annoying in different ways. I do "baby" my youngest a little but that doesn't mean he's my favourite.