I should be honest and say I've posted here for traffic and I've namechanged but am a regular.
I have two DD- one 13 and one much younger; it might sound smug but I've found parenting an absolute doddle up til about 6 months ago when all my smugness has been repaid with my angel of a daughter turning into a nightmare teen overnight!
She has fallen out with nearly all her friends bar one, and at the risk of sounding like THAT mother the one left isn't the best influence.
Last night she came down in tears because her and the remaining friend have logged into another girls online gaming account and stolen her virtual stuff (I'm being vague because I don't understand it!). My DD has confessed partly because she feels guilty- the other girl was a good friend and had shared her password- but also because I think she thought I was about to find out anyway.
I have contacted other girls mum to apologise and ensure the girl gets her things back but I'm devastated that my DD has gone from being so lovely and kind- it's what other people say about her, not me- to a bullying thief.
I've taken all phone and internet privileges away but am utterly at a loss as how to deal with her going forward. Boundaries and control have slipped during lockdown as I've been working full time from home - DH works long hours so only really around on weekends- and looking after her and younger child so I admit she's not had my full attention but there's only so much I can do to keep food on the table and a preschooler safe.
Any ideas greatly appreciated- I think I'm going to need them to get through the next tree or four years!