To meet or not too meet?

[Ginbunny1212]

Need a bit of advice. I am not too sure my distrust of internet guys are clouding my judgement.

Met a guy OLD 2 weeks ago. We got it off via chat and quickly swapped numbers. The conversation flows and we chat via text everyday. Few texts whilst at work at quite a few more in the evenings. However a few red flags :

• he says he has his own business consultancy and employs a large number of staff. He won a contract worth a few millions, shared the amount with me after a few days. Is he telling the truth? Seems a bit braggy

• he celebrated and got drunk. Tried to initiate a dirty text exchange. I wasn’t engaging. Told him not doing this with someone I don’t know. He said fair dues, will be in his best behaviour

• we arranged a date for last weekend. He texted in the morning to say he was ill and had a sickness bug. Cancelled and wanted to rearrange. He texted during the day saying was I’ll

• took a few days to rearrange. Now next weekend. Says he is in Poland for business from last Thursday for a week. He says previously he travelled a lot and now only does it occasionally. He sent pictures of Poland, but he wasn’t in it.

• he tried to initiate another dirty text exchange. Said he was bored alone in hotel. I ignored him and he apologised

So are these genuine red flags or just a guy clueless about internet dating? He isn’t love bombing me, as the majority of chats are innocent. Just something feels off - probably more I am more suspicious as he cancelled first date due to illness. Am I being unreasonable to ghost him?

I think you already know the answer. don't you?

You really have to ask?

The dirty texts alone would be enough for me to block (especially as you said no the first time!)

he is more likely to be unemployed, married with 4 kids rather than a jet setting businessman worth millions.

@Ginbunny1212 red flags, run

If this is him when he's trying to impress you I dread to think what he'll be like when he thinks he's got you. He sounds like a sleazy wanker who wants you for wank fodder. Run!

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay spot on

I hope he is genuine. Seems nice via text. He has only tried the sleazy talk twice. But not in a sexual way. In my mind If we meet next week great. If he cancels then ghost.

I am distrusting as the last guy was married and I found out after a few dates. Had a few people lie about things too. I don’t want to write him off too soon, but again don’t want to be made a fool.

Your gut is talking to you. Listen to it. Don't waste your time on a date and don't put him in control of whether or not you meet. Where's your self esteem?! You are worth more than a guy who wants drunken dirty messages with a stranger he's not even met. Ugh.

Can you ask him what his company is called, then do a bit of googling, check linked-in, etc. ?

What @loulou2020 said. And companies house.