AIBU- partner wasting time in the bathroom on his phone??

[Somanyusernamess]

DP works longish hours and has evening hobbies several times a week.
So he goes to work within an hour of getting up and gets home 1-2 hours max of our DD going to bed usually (some days she can already be asleep)
But every morning and most evenings he goes into the loo and spends between 30-45 mins in there on occasion it can be an hour and I'm not exaggerating, doing his business and then watching videos on fb etc and it's starting to drive me mad. He admits he's finished within 10 mins or so and stays in there just because he's watching vids.
Meanwhile I am lucky to find 2 mins to go to the loo alone!
But he's wasting time he could be spending with DD in my opinion, he's lucky to see her for an hour a day between working and sitting on the toilet!
AIBU to this he's taking the piss!?
P.S he has no bowel issues and he isn't watching porn 🤣 I can hear it half the time its football or stupid vids on fb.

Also start referring to how he dislikes being a dad and being around his DD as if it’s a well known fact. So if a friend invites you out you say “oh jane asked me to go out on Friday but I told her I can’t because You don’t like being around DD.” Or if you’re chatting with friends about kids find a way to “I love being a mum but DH doesn’t like being a dad, do you? You try to avoid parenting where possible.” Embarrass the fuck out of him.

Just shout out, after about 5 minutes, "I know you are having a wank, can't that wait until later?"
Alternatively, switch off your wifi for the duration, so he has to use his data allowance.

Deliberately dodging his parenting duties by pretending he’s having a shit. Ask him why he doesn’t want to spend time with his DD.

I’d take the lock off the door and after 10 minutes go and hurry him along or plonk DD on the floor for him to look after. Totally selfish to be disappearing for such long periods of the day and checking out of family life.

Add it up over a month and present it to him like that. He prob thinks 'oh it's only a few minutes here and there it doesn't matter' but it feels very different if you add it up.

Like when my phone tells me how long I've been on Mumsnet over a week

@Somanyusernamess

DP works longish hours and has evening hobbies several times a week. So he goes to work within an hour of getting up and gets home 1-2 hours max of our DD going to bed usually (some days she can already be asleep) But every morning and most evenings he goes into the loo and spends between 30-45 mins in there on occasion it can be an hour and I'm not exaggerating, doing his business and then watching videos on fb etc and it's starting to drive me mad. He admits he's finished within 10 mins or so and stays in there just because he's watching vids. Meanwhile I am lucky to find 2 mins to go to the loo alone! But he's wasting time he could be spending with DD in my opinion, he's lucky to see her for an hour a day between working and sitting on the toilet! AIBU to this he's taking the piss!? P.S he has no bowel issues and he isn't watching porn 🤣 I can hear it half the time its football or stupid vids on fb.

That's gross, but yabu to expect that if he weren't doing that, that he'd suddenly be having this additional time with lo, that is unlikely to be the result!

My ex used to do this. Usually when it was time to put tea out or something else to get out of. He was very selfish and I am well rid of the cheating fool.