SNORING!

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My DH works so hard and does more than his fair share around the house and with our DD. My issue is, I'm 16 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and DH snoring is making it impossible for me to get any sleep. I also think it's waking our DD. Iv occasionally asked him to sleep in the spare room when I'm really tired, but that room is between ours and DD so it made no real difference. I guess, what should I do?! Is this the for better or worse part 😂 Has anyone got any top tips? AIBU to be annoyed evvvvvery morning when I wake up knackered? As he keeps reminding me, it's not like he does it on purpose.
Thanks

YANBU and he needs to put some work in to fixing it. I’d say until he does actually fix it he doesn’t get to sleep in the bed.

He has to sort it out. Might not be his fault but not sorting it out I’d his fault. Or get earplugs abs he deals with and toddler wake ups.

I suppose it depends if he can do anything about it. Is he overweight?
Can he get one of those clip things for his nose?
My son is the loudest snorer going. I recorded him once from downstairs!
His fiancée has a selection of ear plugs now.

Thanks all! Earplugs probably aren't an option just because of DD. Although OH is really good at getting up to her, he doesn't always hear her, so I have to nudge him, he then will get up with no issues or "it's your turn" nonsense.

He hasn't really tried anything so I will definitely ask him to get some of those strips etc. We could probably both do with loosing a bit of this "lock down weight" we have gained. He is no more over weight than I am, and I feel a bit mean asking him to try to cut back, when as a pregnant lady who can only manage to eat potatoes without being sick, I have no intention of changing my diet right now 😂

I feel your pain! My husband and I have been in separate rooms for 10 years!! When baby #2 moved into her own room, begrudgingly I welcomed my husband back to my bed 😂😂😂.
We did two things to tackle it:

1. He had his tonsils removed about 10 years ago (not recommended unless absolutely necessary) but there were complications so we was readmitted for a week. He said there was no pain like it (is beginning to differ having given birth to two whopping 9lb babies) 😉 It turns out the cause for his snoring wasn't tonsil related... he's never let me forget this 😂 In my defense, the Dr said that it would most likely solve the problem and I pinned all my hopes on it.

2- He finally saw a sleep specialist and had a machine to wear over a period of a few nights. From his results, the specialist saw that he had mild sleep apnea and that he needed a specialist mouth guard. We did have to pay but it was worth every penny. Basically, the top piece slots into the bottom piece (like a retainer) and brings the jaw forwards.
It's not 100% effective but WOW what a difference. I still wear ear plugs but I don't mind. Some nights I don't wake up at all.

We've been together for 13 years but there were points in our relationship that I was seriously ready to live in a different house. I even googled couples who lived separately... I couldn't take it anymore!!! Night after night after night of no sleep really took its toll on my mental health! !! It nearly ruined our marriage.
I remember going away for a weekend and not realising that I'd forgotten my ear plugs until really late. I burst into tears and realised then that we had to get serious help.

I've never blamed him.for his snoring but I started to resent him which was really unhealthy.

Do see a specialist if it takes over your life. We've never looked back!!!! Xxx

Thank you for sharing. Feels better knowing I'm not alone. I'll definitely suggest he at least starts with the GP and see what they recommend, then go from there!

Dh got these from the chemist
They don't stop it, but it's at a level where I can still sleep rather than the motorbike revving of before.
It's horrendous

I use earplugs and sleep phones- this is a headband with flat earbuds that I play white noise through - loudly. Works well and I can usually sleep through the worst of it.

I feel your pain, my boyfriend snores soooo loudly, if I’m sat on the balcony which is about 20m away from the bedroom and with a brick wall between us I can still hear him. He even snores if he falls asleep sat up on the sofa. Ahhhhhhhh!

I feel the pain. My husband snores dreadfully and is awaiting a sleep analysis. I've worn ear plugs for years. I'm 100% sure he has severe sleep apnoea, due to putting on weight. If your DH isn't overweight, it might be a structural issue with his sinuses and/or throat, as opposed to additional fat around the neck.

Does he wake up refreshed or is he tired during to day too? Have you done the online sleepiness test?
www.blf.org.uk/support-for-you/obstructive-sleep-apnoea-osa/diagnosis/epworth-sleepiness-scale

As for your DD, to help block the sound, could you add more soft furnishings on the wall facing your room, or in your room facing hers? A large, hanging, thick curtain, or one with a pattern like wall art?

I hate that my partner snores! Drives me mad, so I feel your pain! I wear ear plugs as I know I'm intolerant when he's just breathing loudly. He did lose a bit of weight and that helped a while back, but the nose strips don't do a thing. I'm worried because I'm pregnant atm and don't know what will happen when we have the baby... I won't be able to wear ear plugs will I? At the moment when he wakes me up through my ear plugs I have to get up to wee anyway which wakes him up too... And I don't mind too much that Ive woken him 😳

@Elouera he's always tired when he wakes up but I think that's more to do with our tinker DD being a very early riser, so we both feel cut short 😂 Thank you everyone.

My DD pretends to go to sleep, she'll announce to the room "nigh' night" then snort repeatedly. I think she thinks everyone snores haha!

@alphabetsoup1980 You let him have his tonsils removed ? Because of snoring ? It doesn't even make sense to do that! Having them taken out as a kid was so painful but in adults it's apparently worse.

The only solution that worked for us was (and remains) separate bedrooms. Even so, he is still capable of waking up the whole household. It's like a lorry driving through the house.

I snore. Its a pretty new thing but I just can't stop it. I've done chin strap (no good as I snore with my gob shut or open), nasal strips and I've even forked out for a mouth guard which is HORRIBLE to sleep with. Drooling and the retching as holding things in my mouth makes me gag after a few seconds.
I've also been dieting and exercising but nope. Nada. Still snoring. I paid for an app to monitor my snoring too and it shows no obstructive sleep apnoea so a CPAP machine is probably not required. I will have to speak to the GP soon though and see what other options I have.

It's shit. I even wake myself sometimes. Your fella will probably be feeling crap and embarrassed about it too. Get him to buy and try all those little gadgets and gizmos and if all that fails, he needs to see the GP.

I'm the snorer in our household (apart from when DH has a few beers) - losing weight/ nose strips/ sprays didn't work. Dairy avoidance did help the congestion a little (though mostly a gut issue) , so I now rarely have this. DH was lovely but getting fed up, and we don't have a spare room. I worked out that my nose was getting congested and I was a mouth breather. Went to the dentist and paid for a mouth device - OMG the best £350 I have ever spent. Snoring is almost gone, I feel much more rested in the morning, and DH is happy! Definitely get him assessed as there are different reasons for snoring, some more easily fixed than others.

I'm also a snorer and it is so horrible. DH is pretty good about it but often sleeps in the spare room. I have offered but he doesn't mind. I have been to the doctor who referred me to the hospital and they thought it was allergies that were causing it but it turned out I wasn't allergic to anything. It is taking a very long time to get anywhere especially now with Covid where of course this is not a top priority for the NHS.

I've tried strips, mouth guards, sprays, foams, straps, nose rings, different pillows, apps and nothing really makes that much difference. I am overweight but I snored when I was so skinny people were getting worried about me.

It's the thing I hate most about myself and it has stopped me from travelling and sleeping in shared accommodation, weekends away with friends where I'd be sharing a room, sleeping on planes or trains and basically makes me feel like an unfeminine horrible disgusting pig lump.

It's not that easy to sort out and it is not something I am doing on purpose. I am lucky that DH is pretty chilled about it but it still makes me hate myself.