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To ask your proud parent moments?

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FourPerDozen · 25/07/2020 19:24

DS is a few days off 3. He’s generally very polite and knows to say please and thank you directly before/ after getting something, but sometimes I need to remind him.

His grandparents came over today to give him some presents. When they were leaving and it was time to say goodbye, he suddenly stood up (without prompting), gestured all his presents and said ‘thank you for all these presents! They are so lovely’. I ended up tearing up a bit.

What are you proud parent moments?

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pumpkinpie01 · 25/07/2020 20:32

I'm so proud of all my dc,but my oldest has had it tougher than the others. His best friend died in a tragic car accident a few years ago when they were both 23, they were like best friend soul mates. He was with him when he died. He could have turned to drink or drugs to help him get through such a painful time but he didn't he carried on being a good dad and running his business without losing it thou his heart breaks every day.😢

noideaatallreally · 25/07/2020 20:32

My DS graduated with a first class honours degree. This from a child who, at 12 years old, was placed on the SEN register. He is (in my eyes) a perfect son - thoughtful, gregarious, polite, astute, intelligent, articulate, unassuming. He is the light of my life, and I am not ashamed to own that!

BabloHoney · 25/07/2020 20:32

Love these.

A mum came up to me in the playground last year and told me her son (age 6) was being teased by some of the other boys in class, he wanted to be an angel in the school nativity play and some of the others were laughing at him. Apparently my son gave him a hug and spent the whole lunch break playing angels with him. He hadn’t mentioned it to me, when I asked him he just said the other boy was sad but happy when someone else liked angels too. I cried.

BackforGood · 25/07/2020 20:34

Mine are adults now so I've had the "big" moments, when you'd expect me to be proud (graduations, etc., and I've been to Buckingham Palace as the Parent of DofE Gold Award holders) but it genuinely is the "little" moments.

Like I was going somewhere with dd (who was 20) and we were getting on the train having a chat when she suddenly wasn't there - simply because she'd noticed someone with a large pram not able to negotiate the steps up so had shot off to give her a lift up with the pram. Or a neighbour who met my ds through her dc's friends, came to tell me what a lovely young man he is.

More recently, dd2's friend had her drink spiked, and dd didn't want to worry me or her friend's parents so called her brother (my ds) at 3am, who got up and drove to the hospital to pick them up and drive friend home (despite the fact he needed to be at work at 6am)
All really tiny in the scheme of things, but these are the things that show me we've done a pretty damn good job raising our kids, and that they will be okay in life.

Babs709 · 25/07/2020 20:34

I love reading these so am placemarking.

cariadlet yours definitely made me tear up - that’s lovely. And LyndaSnellsSniff.

katmarie · 25/07/2020 20:35

Watching my 2 1/2 year old ds holding up flash cards to his 9 month old sister and trying to teach her what was on them. The conversation went 'whats this dd?' Holds up card. 'Triangle. Well done dd.' Pats dds head. Dd didn't say a word, being only 9 months, but she was absolutely riveted by ds, and I just was so proud of ds.

TawnyPippit · 25/07/2020 20:35

My DS (18) just started a summer job today and they were really pleased with him and said there were loads of extra things he could do so he looks set for the summer. It’s outside/sport related and after A level cancellation and lockdown it feels like just what he needs. In my mind he’s about 4, so how come he’s earning money and has a goatee??? I have a slight feeling of “job done”(ish) which will last till A level results day in less than 2 weeks time!

DorisDances · 25/07/2020 20:40

My DS called out racist behaviour from a co-worker in his first part time job. He is generally a quiet lad so really proud that he took a stance

Winterwoollies · 25/07/2020 20:42

@FrenchtoEnglish that really made me laugh 🤣

weegiemum · 25/07/2020 20:42

When my Dd1, who had put her heart and soul into her art, got an unconditional place at Glasgow School of Art. She'd not had an easy childhood as I'm disabled and both my physical and mental health is poor, but she channelled everything into her creativity and got her offer. Even better - she is loving it and starting to get noticed now, we always knew she was good but it's so great to see that professionally vindicated!

PuffinShop · 25/07/2020 20:43

Lots of things, but one I remember specifically that when DD (who was always slightly behind with motor skills and is a very cautious girl) learnt to ride her first 'big girl' bike just after her 4th birthday I could have burst with pride.

ILoveGroot · 25/07/2020 20:51

My father died last year, very suddenly, and whenever I have a little cry my DS (7) comes to sit with me and just says "mummy I will cuddle you until you're happy again." 🥰

puzzledpiece · 25/07/2020 20:59

DS2 (then 2 years old) pulled aside the plastic curtains in the soft place area for a mum and baby to pass through (surprised look from mum!) and later stepped back from the top of the slide to let a little girl go first. He is still a little darling.

MattBerrysHair · 25/07/2020 21:00

These are so lovely Smile

Ds1 was diagnosed with autism last November aged 11. He's found the transition to grammar school really difficult emotionally and gets very overwhelmed and tired, what with executive functioning challenges etc. Despite these struggles his school reports have been amazing, he's got a great group of friends and is kind and considerate. His strength and determination is really something.

Ds2 is very quiet and reserved with people he doesn't know and hates being centre of attention. He likes to pretend he is aloof and uncaring but deep down he's a massive softie with a huge heart, but not everyone sees that side of him and I used to worry that people wouldn't like him as a result. I call my DC The Stinkers as a pet name and one of his friends overheard me calling him that one day. The boy says "he's not a stinker! He's a really kind friend!". I was so very proud in that moment.

Justgivemewine · 25/07/2020 21:02

@Merryoldgoat

My son is autistic. Every school assembly from nursery to Year 1 he had to be flanked by 2 teachers and kept quiet.

One assembly in Y2 it dawned on us that he wasn’t surrounded, knew his lines and indistinguishable from any other child. A few months later he got a big role in the nativity and was fab and I cried like a baby.

This kind of thing here too.

Ds1 has HFA and went from completely freaking out in the end of year play in infants to having a main role in one at the end of juniors on a big stage in a proper theatre. There wasn’t a prouder parent in the room.
No one except other parent of children with ASD really get what a big deal that sort of thing is.

Also I’m so proud of ds2&3 for the way they cope with the difficulties from having an older brother with autism. The way (especially ds2 as he’s older) they protect him, look after him when they/we are out, etc.

Babyroobs · 25/07/2020 21:29

My teenage ds going through a traumatic court case as a witness after watching his friend killed by a speeding driver. Despite overwhelming evidence that the driver was doing 75mph in a 40mph zone, he insisted on pleading not guilty to try to get himself a lesser sentence thus forcing the teenage witnesses to re -live the trauma of their friend being hit and trying to resuscitate him. I am so proud of him.

BackforGood · 25/07/2020 21:30

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult That's lovely. I'd have been in floods

@ILoveGroot I am sobbing now

Bbq1 · 25/07/2020 21:31

My ds lost his gran who was dh's mum and his ganga my dad within the space of the last year. He was close to both but especially close to his ganga. He stood up there on the altar and read at both of their funerals and I'm sure they were as proud of him as we were. It's moving to read how many of our teens are so brave.

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 25/07/2020 21:36

When DS(6) started reading. He has SEND and I never took it for granted that he would be able to. Watching him pointing out words wherever we go is an absolute delight.

Merryoldgoat · 25/07/2020 21:37

@Justgivemewine

It’s truly amazing, isn’t it? My DS also has HFA and it’s so special to see him blossom.

He has real friends and a lovely life now. It’s such a turnaround.

Oysterbabe · 25/07/2020 21:39

My 4 year old DD is a little punk. I never really listen to music any more but if she hears something fast and with guitars her ears prick up and she's drumming with pens. She loves Offspring atm.

Aquamarine1029 · 25/07/2020 21:46

So many things, but one was when my son was 5 and we were walking around going to various shops. A woman walking towards us tripped and fell, and my son ran over to her and said, "Are you ok?! Should we call for an ambulance?"

I didn't even know he fully understood what an ambulance was. He was so concerned for this woman it made me tear up.

Lizzosflute · 25/07/2020 21:54

This is such a lovely thread ❤️

My DD is a very sweet, kind, gentle soul. She always puts others’ needs before her own - we were at a little garden party today for a friend’s daughter and she helped the little ones, let them go first on everything, fetched food for them, let them play with her doll.

She is a very funny child with me and DH but very very attached to me, and thus very clingy. She started dancing lessons last year and to begin with, I had to sit outside the hall for two hours (after starting off in the room!) as she was so nervous. Three months later, she performed three dances on stage, and was chosen to be at the front for each dance to lead the other girls. I was so proud of my sweet, shy girl!

ultrablue · 25/07/2020 22:21

I have 3DC and the last few years have been a struggle for the eldest two..

DD1 was diagnosed with autism in her first year of 6th form. But despite struggling with her diagnosis, supporting her housemate at uni who began suffering with mental health issues alongside her own MH issues, managed to take on a full time job during her dissertation to support them both graduated January this year (after an extension) with a very very high 2:1.. fingers crossed she's going back to do a master's in October despite still working full time.. that's her dream..

DD1 struggled moving to a new school for his 6th form.. the best in the whole county so obviously he was up there for his chosen subject but a bit daunting when you find out that your new friends have parents who are multi millionaires (I kid you not). Anyway he struggled which too affected his mental health, attendance fell to such low levels as he was making himself physically ill worrying about going in. Luckily school were brilliant getting him to attend, he was on last chances so many times, anyway they got him into the greenpower racing programme. He applied to university this year for a course which is the only one in the UK with only 30 places and was the one that he really wanted to do. He was offered a place during his interview which was amazing.

Hoping DD2 will pull off the Garrick this year lol. She has always shall we say been a free spirit, but has knuckled down the last couple of years GCSE wise so hopefully she will be rewarded...

ultrablue · 25/07/2020 22:23

Jeez bloody auto correct DS1... And hatrick not Garrick