Naming baby when not together

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Mums who have had babies but not been with babies dad, what have you done about deciding first name and middle names?
Have you decided together or let babies dad know with a picture? ' Meet (babies name) born ?/??/?? '

What have other people done around this scenario?

Is the child’s father going to be involved? Depends a lot on your situation.

I picked my child’s name, one middle name and my surname. Father picked 2nd middle name.

I mean, have you asked him yet and made your suggestions? What did he say?

You could ask for his input but it's your choice I would say. Definitely your surname!!

My parents weren’t together when I was born ( were married) I was given a name out of spite because DM knew it wasn’t what DF wanted. Not suggesting that you would do this, but 45 years later it still annoys me that he wasn’t given a say.

I split up with ExH when 3 months pregnant with DC3. He wasn't at the birth. I had said in advance a list of about 5 names of either sex that I liked, he vetoed a few. Then when she was born I said "I think she's definitely an X" and he agreed. But essentially, I would never have chosen a name he hated - she's still his child too, even if we are no longer together.
I think providing a list of all names you are happy with, and giving the other person a change to veto or suggest some is a good start

@GinDaddyRedux
You don't know the situation thank you very much

When we were together, we discussed names and he didn't have any suggestions, but liked the ones I gave, so I know for a fact that he won't hate whatever I choose.
Very complex situation but he hasn't made any efforts to be involved in anything, even getting anything for baby, and quite honestly has been dam right rude and selfish with a lot of things this pregnancy. Now we're split, he's asking if I've had any more thought on babies name.
It's going to be 1 of 2 names (which he knows and likes), and middle names, he didn't make any suggestions but the names I suggested, he likes, so it won't be a name he hates, and I'm not the type of person to do something as serious and permanent as name a child out of spite.
For various reasons I am not contacting him until the birth but I just wanted to get an idea of what other people have done in a similar situation

Seeing your update, pick the name you want.

Pick the name you want and give the baby your surname too.

Especially if not together then I would just use your own choices for all first name, middle name, surname etc. Obviously if ex shares his ideas and suggestions then you can take on board any you like but i would say you are the final decision maker. Too many of us do what dad wants and then he disappears, so do what you want.

Speaking from experience, choose the names you like.
Do not give the baby his surname, or list him as father on the birth certificate, or you are leaving yourself open to a life of control from him.
I think the fact that he has not been interested to date speaks volumes.

Pick the names and def your surname and let him know after birth has been registered.

Doesn't he have to attend to be named on the birth certificate? And then that's confirmation he is accepting he's the father?

Name the baby whatever you want and defo your surname. I am at odds with DH over #2's name and I would love to be able to make the sole decision!

Another vote for picking the names yourself