6 year old’s anger

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My 6 year old dd has anger and I’m
not sure how to deal with it. Anything can set it off, even the most trivial of requests or if something doesn’t go her way. For example, when drawing a picture, if she makes a mistake, she’ll rip it up, shout “I hate myself” or “I want to kill myself” and storm out the room, slamming the door. It’s like this with everything. We’re now at the point where friends are avoiding us because people are scared to speak to her in case they say the wrong thing, triggering this extreme reaction.

I usually deal with her calmly, trying to talk to her about how she feels and we’ve done mindfulness together to try and teach her some coping strategies but once she’s in the moment it all goes out the window. I’m going to speak to the doctor but I wondered if anyone had any advice? I can feel my patience wearing thin and I really don’t want to snap at her and say something I’ll regret in the meantime.

No advice but my seven year old can be the same sometimes, upsetting when she says things like that but I know she doesn't mean it and we always talk out what is sparking off her feelings. She is a sensitive soul but does get angry sometimes over what are seemingly very trivial things. My husband doesn't always deal with her outbursts very well either which is also a sore point, they are both quite hot headed sometimes and while my initial instinct is to calm and care his is often a bit less sympathetic which doesn't help.
Interested in what others may offer as advice.

There is a book called “what to do when your temper flares” which is great to work through to discuss triggers and ways of managing anger appropriately. Also children who are negative about themselves often have low self esteem, so boosting your child’s esteem may help.