Just can’t be arsed to sell second hand children’s clothes

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DH wants to get them sold to claw some money back but I think it’s too much hassle. If I were to take the photos, asses the condition, list on Marketplace/ebay etc then they might not even sell - I just don’t think it’s worth the effort - I have sold the Frugi/Joules/Boden stuff and made a bit of cash but honestly who is going to pay for washed/worn H&M leggings?

AIBU just to donate or should I try to resell?

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Ps if you really want to donate, I wouldnt actually do so at charity shop. Nearly every where has refuges or charities that make up bundles for families in need, for free. They always need stuff and that way you know it gets to those in need without it bankrupting them - charity shops will sell on for as much as they can get away with.

Before doing this, I would check this is actually what happens. I worked for a Refuge where people donated stuff, believing this is what would happen, in fact I had done so before I worked there. What actually happened was that the stuff was taken to their own charity shop to be sold off, so the manager had control of more cash flow. Just one lots of 'questionable' practises, and she got the sack eventually, but worth an ask before you go to extra trouble to do it in this way.

Me neither.
I don't really like giving to a charity shop anymore once they see a brand they price them off ebay, although the intention is to support the charity it use to the mutual benefit of helping the community pay low prices.
I'm not having some poor person pay extortionate prices for something I gave away.
There is always a neighbour or a friends child happy to take them.

If DH wants to sell clothes on eBay, what is stopping him?

We have local churches, mosques and food banks who take clothes for children to give away for free. Our local catholic schools in underprivileged areas often asked for second hand children’s and babies clothing to discreetly give away to the families they know are struggling when they give them free “school meals” in the holidays or when they visit the uniform bank. The Salvation Army is a good shout too.

Try googling “children’s clothes bank”.

I definitely wouldn’t sell on cheap clothing, just donate to those who are desperately needing some clean, gently worn but outgrown stuff. I used to collect children’s clothes from the teachers I worked with to give to local teenage mums and I was sometimes horrified to see what they thought was acceptable to pass on with the “saves me a trip to the charity shop” line. Grey, stained, bobbled clothes with holes in. And sometimes they expected a thank you card!

I sell the good brands on eBay, but I've never had any luck selling bundles on Facebook. I think probably because we are rural - we don't have a big market locally, and people can't be bothered to drive to pick up clothes. I'm passing most of it on instead.

DC1's school has a clothes bank to raise money for the school. What I can't pass on goes there.

If you're husband wants to do it, then what's it to you? He will put all the effort in.

@DancingInDespair google ‘baby bank [town name]’, I volunteer for one and we’re always very grateful for donations. As long as it’s clean and in good condition (nothing stained or broken), it will be passed on to families in need.

I sometimes sell the better stuff if I'm in the mood to be bothered and stick the money in DD's money box. I have a set time limit though as I can't stand having a all the old stuff clutter g up the house, so if things don't sell within 3 weeks, they go to the charity shop or textile recycling bin at the tip.

I'm a big believer in what comes around goes around and also lazy . I pass everything on for free, happy to see it used get rid of it and do someone a favour.

Usually the same people don't get to repay the favour because DC are the wrong ages but I have benefited similarly myself and I get that warm fuzzy feeling from doing something nice.

If people offer I say, "oh if you must, put it in the next charity box you see."

I gave away two mint condition kids bikes last weekend. They'd been in the garage for years I wasn't going to do anything with them, I was just glad to see them gone to someone who needed them.

If DH wants to sell them though, maybe he can do the leg work?

When dd was 2, I sold all her baby stuff at a consignment sale and did make a very large amount of money because I had several nice big-ticket items.

I’ve tried selling online since then and it’s just not worth it. The amount of effort involved in communicating with flakes means I just won’t do it any more. If I have larger items, I watch for a local mom to mention that she is looking to buy used and then I give it to her for free. Things like clothes go to the charity shop.

I couldn't be bothered either. To much hassle to do it then trudge to the post office multiple times. I've given things away to friends or donated to a homeless or women's refuge

i have tried selling this time cos theres sooo much and charity shops havent been taking. but is faff. i certain ly wouldnt decide dh should do it, so if he wants it done, h can di=i it

I sell all the decent stuff on brand specific FB groups and always do well with Boden, Joules and JoJo Maman Bebe. There’s no real market for anything else so I either pass it on to friends or charity shop it.

Surely the answer is for him to do it.

I donate all dcs clothes to Barnardos

I prefer to donate to friends or charity. If your husband's too tight to do that let him go to the effort of selling it on Ebay.

I can't be arsed with ebay or any of it either OP - too much stuff on there now so it likely won't sell for months on end - I've some friends who sell childrens' outfits for £3 and I often wonder what's the bloody point in that - let a charity make more selling it.
I'm trying to get rid of some solid oak kitchen chairs at the moment - local charity furniture depot keep sending us away - ridiculous!!

I put stuff on Freecycle.
Can’t be bothered, just let them take it away.

I sell vintage on Ebay and a couple of other platforms and believe me selling on Ebay is not for the faint hearted, There are so many rules and regulations that its easy to get caught out. Too many people want to return stuff and then there are the scammers who are out and out to cheat you. Fees are also very high. The days when you could dump a lot of junk on Ebay and make a pile are well gone.

If you have high end kids clothes you might do better on some of the social media platforms like Gumtree or Schpock or the buy/sell groups on FB. However it does involve a lot of preparation and is not by any means as simple as the TV ads make out. Decent pictures are an absolute must.

I pass on to a friend with younger DDs. Could sell but don't want the hassle

I sell vintage clothes on depop/eBay but cannot be bothered buying to sell children's clothes. There's just not enough money to be made. I'll sell my sons stuff as huge bundles cause I don't have the motivation to individually list.

Make him do it.

@NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

Ps if you really want to donate, I wouldnt actually do so at charity shop. Nearly every where has refuges or charities that make up bundles for families in need, for free. They always need stuff and that way you know it gets to those in need without it bankrupting them - charity shops will sell on for as much as they can get away with.

Yeah, they sell it for as much as they can. So they can use the profit for the charity

The shop itself isn’t meant to be the charitable bit really.

To answer the OP, we have a policy of hardly ever giving to charity, don’t sponsor acquaintances etc but instead we give everything to charity that we could perhaps resell. It means we can justify our laziness.

If your DH is so keen, he can do the photos, put on eBay, answer questions, put stuff in the post etc...

Unsurprinsgly my DH has never taken up that offer.

Me? Charity shop all the way. Or friends with younger Dcs. A refuge is an excellent idea

As PPs have said, your lazy arse husband can do it.

He could sell in bundles. All the xx age - xx age clothes together or tops together etc. I’ve done this before it’s easier.