AIBU for not wanting to go to a wedding?

[wingingitk15]

My partners uncles wedding was cancelled because of corona, they've rescheduled for a couple of weeks time. They're limited to 30 spaces at the ceremony but are allowed more at the after party. To my knowledge we weren't invited to the big wedding that was cancelled so I'm confused why we're being invited to a smaller get together but I guess that's not really relevant.

I'm currently 6 months pregnant so I'm very unsure of how safe this will be? I've been shielding as much as possible and have barely seen my family for 4 months, I'm not sure I'm willing to just throw the sacrifices everyone has made out of the window for this wedding for someone I've never even met?

Has anyone attended a wedding and what safety measures were put in place, would you feel comfortable going or am I completely over thinking this?

YABU - just go to the wedding
YANBU - I wouldn't feel comfortable going

I wouldn’t be going to a group gathering so I’d politely decline. Still too many cases being found each day so it wouldn’t be worth the risk to me for what is a social event,

I don't understand this bizarre custom of only being invited to after-parties for weddings anyway--it seems so unbelievably rude. I would definitely not go, especially when you are pregnant and it is during a pandemic!

you can only have 30 at both the wedding and the reception.

@kimlo now I'm really confused because the message said they were pushed for space at the ceremony since they were only allowed 30 but that they were having the after party and we were invited to that and asked if there was any dietary requirements so it's definitely just the after party. I'm beginning to think it's some place that will not follow social distancing guidelines and it most likely wouldn't be safe

I'm pretty sure they're not allowed more than 30 at the afterparty either

Yeah, they definitely can't have more than 30 at any gathering. Don't go.

Couldn't be bothered with the wedding of someone I've never met!

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definetly 30. To be fair it doesn't say it has to be the same 30 people.

Personally O wouldn't go.

sorry huge link.

I’d go, but if you’re not comfortable then don’t. It’s not worth the worry it will cause you if it’s not a wedding you’re interested in being at. Just let your dp go alone.

@FoxtrotSkarloey when I've Googled the venue it says it's a cocktail bar and grill. His uncle asked us and said he needed to know for numbers but having just read the link @kimlo sent me it says no food should be served sooo maybe they're reserving tables and it's not actually like a function room?

How big is the venue and how many does it normally fit? The fact he says tight for space would worry me. Just because a place fits 30 doesn't mean you have to have 30 and it certainly means there is no SD in place.

I wouldn't even bother looking into it further and just decline

If I thought it would make me feel uncomfortable, I don't think I'd want to go to an evening party at nearly 7 months. You have the perfect excuse, doc advised against. Also... however much you ask people to social distance at a wedding they are all going to be embracing especially those who will have been drinking since the ceremony, which is what you are trying to avoid, but perhaps you could ask a relative more about the arrangements.

Ive been to a wedding outside in a tipi with 30 people. It was absolutely fine but I feel like because it was outside it was safer. We were all socially distanced inside and the tables were put together in bubbles