To want more paid help around the house?

[adriennewillfly]

In recent times, DH has been very good at sharing the load. He had been a bit rubbish in the past, but now seems to mostly pull his weight. That said, he is likely to move on to more demanding roles, and is up for getting more help around the house to compensate with his lack of time.

We're trying to think what services would be good to pay for. So far we have on the list:

More pre-prepared meals/catered meals
More frequent cleaning
Gardening
Window cleaner
Nursery drop off

Aibu to get the extra help? What services do you pay for that make life a lot easier?

I like the idea of a handyman to do odd jobs, but no idea how to find a good one.

Your money, spend it how you will! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think it depends on you as individuals and what makes life easier so for me
I love cooking but hate cleaning so a cleaner over food delivery
I leave for work at the same time as my son but sometimes rush to get back in time so have considered after school club or childminder for pick up in September
Child care for you both to enjoy time out together?

If you can afford it and it works for your family, why not?

How large is 'the load?'

I always said when I gave up full time work and a focus on my career it was to raise the children not to be a housekeeper. I don’t mind doing my fair share and my husband does likewise but being fortunate enough to have paid help when we had no family close to us was a Godsend.
We had various help over the years and it changed depending on our house and the age of the children. You alone know where the pressure points are in your life.

Currently now the children are left/leaving home we just have cleaners, gardener and an odd job person. We use a laundry service for bedding and towels etc. We don’t have a window cleaner as my husband quite enjoys doing them. I have someone I can call on if we’ve a big supper party; she’s more of a paid friend who will help cook, serve and clear.

YABU to ask strangers on line if you should pay for services in your home. Your decision 🤷🏻‍♀️

YANBU unreasonable to ask for services that others have used. Some people like to get ironing done for them.

My main reaction to your post was 🙄 that yet again on MN it’s the man developing his career (good for him!) whilst the woman thinks about how to get the cleaning done 🙄

Why don’t you develop your career, and let him post on Dadsnet about how he’s going to cover for not doing his share?

Cherry- wow, how the other half lives!!

Do you do anything?