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AIBU to not want to go back to the office?

66 replies

shhhFFS · 22/07/2020 23:57

I have worked from home solidly through lockdown. Due to the nature of my job I have managed to do this and well. I have kept up with my workload, not fallen behind etc although it has been challenging at times for the normal reasons due to lockdown like having to cope with kids, homeschooling etc whilst working 9-5. Even so I have kept on top of things pretty well work wise (home is another matter, the house is a tip, but I have learnt to position myself well in video meetings so no one can see the mess!)

My boss has now asked me to start going back into the office in shifts with other workers, one at a time but we share this out so there is a presence in the office so that it looks open as we are on a street where we get passers by and that looking closed could be damaging business. This I understand.

However, my job, whilst client based it isn’t imperative and as I said has barely been affected by working from home as I communicate on email. Others in the office have more administration based roles that also require more client contact or getting documents from them which mine doesn’t. We have a small office space which at full capacity would make it difficult if not impossible to social distance and only one toilet. We are only a small team of 9, 4 being in administrative roles, myself and others being in researchers roles and then manager/owner.

My issue with going back at the moment is that to do so I would need to use public transport. I can’t drive and whilst we have a car my partner uses it for his work, where he works alone. We live in a rural county and I live about 15 miles away in a different town, I usually car pool with others thst work at the local council, but they are really cutting back and aren’t expected back for another month or so if ever. Everyone else who works there lives within the town and is in walking distance of the office.

If I go into the office I will be doing exactly the same as I would at home. So am I unreasonable to tell my boss no I don’t want to accept the undue risk of using public transport? For the record I am not scared or paranoid about contracting the virus my main concern is our older parents being vulnerable, and having to quarantine for 14 days if exposed due to my partner being self employed and resulting loss of income when we aren’t well enough to take that blow right now after the initial one at the start. Also we are a blended family with 50/50 care, quarantining would result in the kids being held with one family, missing parents, both parties rely on this arrangement to maintain work etc. So these are my concerns.

Should I go back? If my job depended on it of course I will. But as I can do my job and others can get to the office to be a ‘presence’ should I risk public transport? Or am I being over dramatic?

Sorry was longer than intended

OP posts:
Coronabegone · 23/07/2020 11:31

Supposing then whole office asked for the same? YABU! You're office has not moved, you knew where you lived when you took the job.

FluffyKittensinabasket · 23/07/2020 11:49

I’m sure by autumn / winter we will all be WFH again.

Riv12345 · 23/07/2020 11:56

Make me laugh how you think you're got a choice

Your boss have asked you to go back
You go back
Some of us have worked all away through it. The longer you put it off the harder it gets
Keep your distant and wash your hands wear a mask if you need too
But you need some normality back in your life

LindainLockdown · 23/07/2020 11:57

God I am desperate to get back to the office, unfortunately my workplace is talking a January return (makes sense as that's middle of winter - not).

LindainLockdown · 23/07/2020 11:58

Anyway, YABU especially the transport part.

averythinline · 23/07/2020 12:12

Definitely push back based on job role , you can't really use public transport as a reason as your choice not to drive/ have 2 cars .,

Crankley · 23/07/2020 12:23

I guess it depends how badly you want to keep your job. It's an employers market at present and no-one is indispensable. Your method of transport is irrelevant to your manager.

SantaClaritaDiet · 23/07/2020 12:31

But you need some normality back in your life

normality doesn't exclude WFH. Thankfully at least one positive of the pandemic is making it "normal" for people to WFH when the nature of the business allows it.
Yes, obviously nurses/teachers/taxi drivers/ pilots... won't work from home... We know that.

emilybrontescorsett · 23/07/2020 12:32

I would raise it with your boss. Another colleague might prefer working from the office. However if your boss says no then I don’t think you have a choice.

PleasePassTheCoffeeThanks · 23/07/2020 13:15

I changed my vote to YANBU after your update: if the role that needs to be in the office is not yours either only the people whose job it is go back or there is a rota for everybody. I would query it using this angle.

However the public transport thing is not worth mentioning, your problem to solve (why does your DH get to use the car and not you? why can't he drop you off even if it means wasted time for both of you? etc).

shhhFFS · 23/07/2020 13:29

Yes if I had to be in the office I would go and I would use public transport. Simple.

But to go into the office on public transport to a job that isn't mine whilst others in my department aren't asked to is what I am struggling with.

If my job relied on me being there I would go and I would not question it and my travel issues are not my employer's problem.

Our car is essential to my DPs work he needs it and uses it the whole day for transport. He doesn't work in the same place every day, he can be working up to 50 miles + away from me and often not in the right direction so it's not really doable.

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FluffyKittensinabasket · 23/07/2020 13:37

Where I work, travelling by public transport is not deemed as safe travel to work.

averythinline · 23/07/2020 15:04

Your method of transport isn't really applicable for pushing back on going into the office although a number of organisations are still doing individual risk assessments...I don't think they have to ...so far your only grounds are that others at your level are not being asked to go in or on a rota

steppemum · 23/07/2020 23:40

I do think that the world has fundamentally changed.
We have discovered that many people can and do work just as well from home as in the office, and what's more, they dno't have to travel, are reducing effect on environment etc etc.

i think many people and jobs will switch to home working over the next few years. This pandemic has pushed us about 10-15 years on in terms of technology etc.

For example my brother wrks for a big European company, that used to fly their bosses to a centrla location for a team meeting once a month. They have been amazed at how well zoom works and have alreay said it is no longer necessary to do that even if there were no virus.

So, while agree that chilcare/transport/distance isn't you employers problem, I don't think most offices will ever look quite the same.

make your case to your manager, in a veyr positive light. See what happens

emilybrontescorsett · 24/07/2020 12:52

Op, how come the others doing your role gave t been asked to go into the office, that doesn’t sound fair?

Chocoholic12 · 24/07/2020 15:04

Stop making excuses. Its not been easy for any one. I've worked throughout and now bike instead of getting 2 buses. We are also a blended family and had no choice to to send kids to 'corona school'. You are being totally unreasonable.

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