Can introverts be with extroverts?

[Jammydodger6]

I’ve just split with my partner of 5 years and we have one DD toddler.

I have a crush on my neighbour - like I find him sexually attractive. I haven’t actually had a proper conversation with him although I’ve noticed we do have things in common. Same music taste, he has also recently split, same age DD etc etc.

I am so shy and introverted though and he seems extroverted. Chats to the neighbours with ease.

It just got me thinking, should I Pursue this guy and see where is goes or are we destined not to ever work due to our different personalities.

My partner was introverted when I met him, I was extrovert - now we both meet somewhere in the middle 😊

I was painfully introvert when I met my husband over 30 years ago. Now we are both somewhere in the middle - as above, and sometimes I’m slightly more extrovert than him. I’d say he helped my confidence enormously over the years.

I think most people having a mix of both camps and their behaviour/confidence changes depending on the situation or who they’re with.
Regardless you shouldn’t stop doing things in life solely because you don’t think it fits into that category of introvert.

I always say I’m an introvert in an extrovert’s job (comes with my career). I’ve learned to behave in an extroverted way when needed. Fundamentally though, I need plenty of time away from people (including my DH!) to be completely alone to recharge. I think you can find a balance.

My DH is a born performer and loves that kind of attention. The prospect of standing on a stage, to me, is the stuff of anxiety nightmares.

Agree with the above I was / am, an introvert and my partners an extrovert. We also meet somewhere in the middle now.

I'm all for mixing the two different types - but not for dating a neighbour. Imagine the cringe if it goes wrong and you have to see him every time you put the bins out

Of course they can. But I think maybe have a proper conversation or 2 with this man before pursuing him, imagine how it would feel if you try anything on and he shoots you down, or you end up shagging and then realise he's a raving nazi or something then you see him everytime you leave your house.

I think you're asking the wrong question. You've only recently left a longterm relationship and so has he -- neither of you is likely to be in the right place for anything meaningful or longterm, and while that would be fine in other circumstances, do you really want to have to encounter your rebound fling every time you go into your garden or go out your front door?

You can't possibly know he's an extrovert if you've never had a conversation with him - you're basing it on him having one chat with a neighbour.

Go and pop round, ask if his DD would like to come and play - you can have coffee and get to know him. Just take it slowly and see if he's as nice as your loins would have you believe.

Fair point, @FudgeBrownie2019. I also can't help smiling at the OP, who describes herself as shy and introverted, and clearly thinks that chats with neighbours are a sign of extroversion, coolly planning to 'pursue' this neighbour with whom she's never had an actual conversation.

They can. I'm an extrovert and I dated an introvert and I found it difficult though - he was happy staying in just the 2 of us most nights whereas I liked to go out and socialise with friends which he hated most of the time. I don't know if I'd do it again.

I know. I need to get a grip. Just the thought of a little excitement after a dead relationship is getting me through these early days.

Not only one neighbour...quite a few and I can tell by his body language/ease. But you’re right I can’t really know unless I get to know him.