Neighbour CAN'T stop her son smoking weed?

[Shockedshell]

Neighbour's 24yr old son likes to smoke weed in his car next to my house and the other night was smoking it in the garden right next to the boundary fence, it makes my house and garden stink.
Neighbour just came round to ask me to stop my 6 yr old grandson knocking on her door. I was actually mortified, it's an open plan front and we were watching him through the window to make sure he didn't leave our shared enclosed car park but I can't see her front door so didn't know he'd done that!
I apologised and brought him straight in but said whilst your here could I ask you to ask your son not to smoke weed at the side of my house because the smell is awful and makes my house and garden stink.
"Ive told him" she said "but he doesn't listen try asking him yourself". I was pretty shocked and pissed off, she has a 2 Yr old child and she knows he's doing this, she agrees it stinks but can't make him stop!
I have adult children, they don't live with me but no way would I tolerate any of them smoking weed in or near my house especially if I knew it was causing a problem for the neighbours.
AIBU to think the son should have more respect for his mother and little sister?
AIBU to think inflicting this awful smell on us is not acceptable?
Would you class this as ASB? As it is against our tenancy agreement to cause or to allow a visitor to cause ASB.

Just talk.to.him? Weed smoking is more and more common now but of it's affecting you speak to him x

I'm a bit shocked that you managed to lose your 6 year old grandchild and not know where he had gone. No way I would let a 6 year old out of my front door alone.

Regarding the neighbours, he's obviously not been brought up with much respect of he's willing to smoke drugs in front of his mother and neighbours so I fear you won't get far with this.

I get where you’re coming from OP. If my adult DS behaved in a way I didn’t like, ie doing drugs in my home, which is illegal btw, then I would give him two options - stop doing drugs or leave my home, and I would expect him to give up pretty quick as I’m sure he would rather give up the drugs in my home rather than spend his nights on the local park bench. The woman has someone in her home acting illegally which is affecting others outside her home. I’m sure if you made a call to the police, they would at least send someone round to have a brief word with him. She has to bear some responsibility for allowing anti social behaviour in her home.

@Malbecblooms where did I say I'd lost my 6 yr old grandson I knew exactly where he was the whole time.

So the son has a car?

Smearing dog shit on his car door handles might be a good start. Stink bombs are still available from joke shops online too. He makes your house stink? Make his car stink.

[quote Shockedshell]@Malbecblooms where did I say I'd lost my 6 yr old grandson I knew exactly where he was the whole time.[/quote]
Apart from when he was out of your sight and bothering your neighbour.

I think you need to accept that you're living in a big glass house, and pop the stones down.

You said he was smoking in his car. Do you mean on her driveway or the public road?

She obviously doesn't allow him smoke in her house which is why he's in the car. So I presume when you say garden you mean in his car on her driveway?

What would you like her to do if her adult son refuses to stop smoking outside? Kick him out? Phone the police on him?

@Thingsdogetbetter it's an enclosed communal forecourt which contains 5 communal parking spaces one of which is at the side of my home.

@Bitchinkitchen did you bother to read the whole thread? In particular the parts in which I clearly stated I apologised and immediately brought him inside?!

@Shockedshell i did, actually. I'm not sure what that has to do with anything? Your grandson is 6, her son is an adult.

I would never dream of smoking weed outside my mum's house and bugging her neighbours. She'd definitely have something to say to me no matter what age I was.

However, you can't control how other people parent, especially when their children are then adults. She's right in one way, that he is an adult, she cannot physically stop him smoking weed.

You need to speak to him.