This is a bit childish on my part so be warned...long story short...I see my parents at every Sunday. It is our day to visit them or them to visit us. I do not live near them so it is our only chance in the week to visit and for them to see kids. My DH works every Sunday so its just me and kids. Every second week my brother, SIL and kids join us.
Up to a few years ago we would all converge on parents house for dinner etc but because of increase in child numbers about 3 years ago I took the decision to direct visits to my house as much as pos (a) to spare my mother the work of trying to cook for 11 people and (b) to spare parents house (6 grandkids and house gets thrashed!). Now, I am happy to host entire family gathering every few weeks. It isn't easy cooking dinner and tea for 11 with 4 DC (youngest 1 year old) but I do it to spare DM. This week my brother & SIL have invited my parents out for something to eat (today, Sunday) - invitation did not extend any further. I realise they can invite who they want but am a little hacked off.
On the one hand I don't give a toss but on the other hand I'm p'd off. Kids and I miss out on seeing parents and getting together with family. AIBU or just throwing toys out of pram?