To turn the hose on my neighbours?

[Wannabefarmer]

I'm visiting my df for the week. Every fucking night his neighbours are laughing, shrieking, talking all at once, young children playing and screaming till gone 10pm. I'm exhausted! I have a 3 and 5 year old, ds had a fever so fell asleep at 7pm. I've been laying here listening them jabber on for 3 hours 😡

If they were obnoxious, aggressive, thoughtless twats I would have no problem telling them to stfu, but they are probably one of the nicest families I have ever met. Df has terminal cancer and they send him food, gifts, take his bins out, fetch his medicine from the pharmacy and the eldest son even trimmed his hair and beard after it went wild during lockdown. They take better care of df than me.

So I'm laying here feeling a weird mix of resentment and gratitude and imagining running out there and soaking them all into a stunned silence. Pray for me.

OK.

Sounds like you need some sleep. I hope your sons better tomorrow

So your in a property that's not your actual home and want to behave anti towards the neighbours who look after your father impeccably when your not around hmmm interesting.

If anything just pop round and just ask them nicely and explain the situation.. I can only imagine right now you seem to be very stressed.

I've been listening all day to the neighbourhood kids shouting and screaming and enjoying the summer weather. It's great. Not very conducive for me working from home but life goes on no matter what you are dealing with.

You are a visitor and are staying for a week and you want to turn a hose on your "DF"s neighgbours who are taking care of your DF when you are not there? I pray for you!

I think it's pretty normal for a person to feel annoyed by people while accepting they're not bad people.

Their annoying behaviour is seperate from them being good people. OP is tired and needs a place to vent.

It does seem odd that they're so helpful with your poor dad but are completely thoughtless when it comes to being so noisy at night

they are probably one of the nicest families I have ever met

Then just go speak to them. You are clearly stressed, if you just ask them nicely to try to keep it down after 9pm for a few days I'm sure they'll be fine.

I’m hoping you are just tired, stressed and emotional because if they are the people you describe & do so much to help your Dad in your absence YABVU.

This is what war plugs are for. I can recommend the wax ones from boots.

You’ll be visiting for a fortnight now if your day has a fever the whole lot of you will need to self isolate.
If the family are so lovely go and speak to them. Thank them for all they do for your dad and ask if they would mins keeping the noise down outside because the kids are struggling to sleep.

Just open your mouth like an adult and communicate with them.

Buy some ear plugs

I'd be more worried your son had covid then the lovely neighbours enjoying the weather. Give and take in this world.

You are a visitor and are staying for a week and you want to turn a hose on your "DF"s neighgbours who are taking care of your DF when you are not there? I pray for you!*

This* 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽

At least it's only whilst you're staying there. Our neighbours consist of parents who are loud and encourage their dcs to be loud. I think they think that if their children are loud that they will be more confident. No-they are just obnoxious. Screaming every morning and at bedtime too. The only peace we get is when they go out. So count yourself lucky!

Well more importantly- what does your father think of the noise? It's his house. He has to live with it all the time. Maybe he likes the sound of life and music and people. If he doesn't then have a word. If he does then keep your trap shut because you don't live there.

Is everyone else reading a different thread to me?! I think (correct me if I’m wrong, OP) that the thread is at least half light hearted. The OP emphasises how lovely the family is and how helpful they are to her df. It sounds like she’s just shattered, but not hating them.

Shizzlestix

Indeed. We would never have known the neighbours were nice if the OP hadn't told us.

It's hard looking after a sick child and horrible that your father is also ill, but try to enjoy the sound of children laughing, as it is what makes life worth living.

Agree with shizzlestix

I hope you get some sleep OP

For god sake the OP is not going to hose the neighbours with water, she is obviously very tired and worn down, what is the matter with some of you.
Take the rough with the smooth OP and go and buy some ear plugs, I have noisy neighbours and I sleep with the fan on to drown out some of the noise.

10pm isn't late

Thank you to those that realised it was a lighthearted moan

Of course I wouldn't really turn the hose on them. I wouldn't even ask them to keep it down. I'm just stressed and exhausted from trying to keep the dc quiet while df drifts in and out. Then trying to keep them asleep while df moans and crashes about and the neighbours talk and laugh. Cancer is shit 😢 being poor and not being able to afford care is shit. Having no one else to shoulder the burden is shit.

I'm from London originally, but never realised how incredibly noisy it is in the evenings here. Dogs barking, people using their gardens as if it's an extra room in their home, as I write this now I can hear someone drilling in their garden! Where I live now, we're all tucked in by 8pm 😁

I'm sorry your dad is ill. I am glad he has neighbours who help him out. Noise is a hazard of check by jowl city living. It doesn't appear anti-social from what you describe. Just talking and laughing. At least they slow down around 10pm, so normal nighttime sleeping patterns aren't affected.

Hope your son feels better soon and you get peace from the time you spend with your dad.