Is 18 months too soon to move on?

[JizzPigeon22]

My husband passed away last February and I’m still completely heart broken.
My friend has suggested maybe getting back out there and just meeting some people might be helpful and pull myself out of my depression.

If anyone had lost their partner, how long did it take to feel ready to move on? And did you get judged by others for it? Does the guilt ever go away?

Hi OP.
I’m sorry for your loss. I totally understand you as I lost my husband the same month as you!
I’m still trying to work out myself whether I “should” or “shouldn’t” but in reality there’s no timeline. We all make our next step in our own time. Listen to your heart. Be your own guide and don’t be pushed or pressured by anyone else. What is right for one may be wrong for another.
Finding another partner doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten your husband and doesn’t take away from the loss.
Be kind to yourself
X

It's such a personal decision that there's no right or wrong thing.

Take it at a rate that you're happy with. I found throwing myself into friendships helped massively. Meeting new people in a platonic way helped me, but there's nothing wrong with finding a new romance.

If people are judgey then cut those out of your life, you don't need people like that.

I know it's a cliche but be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up over your choices.

Yeah I’m still trying to figure out how I should feel and what I want to do. I have 3 young children which makes things harder too.

I know it's a bit vague, but I think you'll know when the right time for you to move on is. How old are your children?

Are you seeking medical help for your depression? Or is it more of a 'sadness' that you just have to work through yourself?

I’m bi polar, so take meds.
My children are 6, 3 and 10 months. I had just found I was pregnant when he died.

Hi OP
So sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in 2018 and have recently met someone. You'll know when the time is right x

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

Feel free to ignore me, as my xh left rather than died. I still love him as much as ever so I know I'm not ready, 3.5 years on. I think you'll know.

Hi OP, my DP died in 2018 and I haven't dated anyone yet. He was the love of my life for 20 years and I just can't imagine feeling the same way about someone else yet. I've had bereavement counselling, which helped massively as I can now remember him happily and not feel overwhelming sadness, but I'm not ready to date yet.

I wish this wasn't the case as I do feel lonely, especially over the last few months with lockdown. None of my friends or family would judge me if I moved on. In fact, they've been encouraging me to but I just don't feel ready. You just need to take things at your own pace and do what feels right for you.

Wishing you all the best OP x

You're understandably still heartbroken. I would probably wait until things feel a bit more normal (whatever that is!)

Your heart will tell you. Don't force things.