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[littlehead]

I am a twenty two year old mother of two and half year old girl. Is it unreasonable to want another child at some point? my partner has said in no uncertain terms he does not want more children and wants to bring my daughter up as only child.

I think you need to have a heart to heart with your other half and maybe look at where your relationship is going.

You are not the one being unreasonable, he is

oh dear. do men feel the yearning for another child as strongly as we do?
has he always said he only wanted one child, or is it recent?
would he want more if he got paid more, or something like that?

I am a 26 (27 in jan) mother of soon-to-be three, at your age (I had DD 6 weeks before my 20th birthday) I said I never wanted anymore, then had one at 24, and am now pregnant again!!!
Don't despair too much, he may change his mind.
Has he given you any particular reasons as sot why??
FWIW, I didn't want another til DD got to nearly 4, and was so obviously lonely (not all children need siblings, but she was desperate fro one)

I don't think yabu at all...my partner was a lonely only child and was def. up for having two...plus it seems v. unfair to you to ban further children when you are pretty young.

I've met several men recently who'd love to have large families but who's wives/partners have said no, so I guess some men do get the yearning Nightynight.
littlehead, Have you had a proper chat about about the idea or just going by comments he's made?
My DH originally said just the one, then just the two etc, he was worried about how we'd cope financially and about my health more than the idea of having a big family. Maybe you can work through the issues he has.

Thanks for comments. We have discussed it many times because I didnt want a big age gap between my daughters age. It was out of the blue when he explained he didn't want any more as he adores our daughter and loves children. He works very long hours and does not get much time with our daughter and feels he wants to give our daughter the best he possibly can -feels another baby would mean financial struggle. I know he wants the best for her but feel I am depriving her bringing her up only child

I had some similar feelings before my second baby was born, but they were outweighed by wanting another baby.
Financially, there wasnt a big difference between 1 and 2 for us. And what about the responsibility for dd when she is grown up and her parents are old, if she is the only child? (not having a dig at only child families - just giving you a couple of arguments to convince him if you are so inclined!)

kimi, why is her partner being unreasonable? Yes, they need to reach a middle ground, but he is as entitled to his wants regarding children as she is.

Littlehead, did you ever discuss this issue before you got together in the first place?
Had you known of his desire to have no more than one child, would you have still chosen him to be your baby's father?

It is reasonable to want another baby, and to want a small age gap, but it is also reasonable to want to stop at one child.
It would be a shame if your failure to discuss this fairly fundamental question at the right time affected the happy home life of your existing child.