Nc for this.
As a young girl I had a step father. Not around long as dm's men never were..
Been nc with dm +df for over 20 years. Divorced before my first birthday..
I am not on sm but saw his name on Google...
He has a popular hobby and has a website etc.
All good.
I decided to email him a hi think I know you sort of message.
He replied he was him and I confirmed I was me. I have a very unusual name. .
I have nice memories of him and his dps, maybe not so his dc who he sees 1 of. All adults now, no bad feelings...
He wants to keep in touch, father figure not in any other way just to say here...
I have no family apart from dh +dc.. Would it be so bad to keep in touch with a now old man and swap chit chat and dc updates? Feel a bit weird tbh, not towards dm - who would be horrified- I never knew why they split and won't be asking him... their business and over 40 years ago - maybe brings reminders that every adult I have had in my life has gone..
Haven't told dh simply because I feel bad he has nobody either and now maybe I do...
Why is life still such a saga at nearly 50??