Eating habits

[Thestruggleisreal8]

I’m 13 weeks pregnant and I’ve been really poorly throughout it so far – Dr prescribed anti-sickness medication at 7 weeks and apart from the last week or so, I’ve been pretty much bedbound almost 5 days of out 7 days for 5 weeks. At its worst, I was vomiting up to 15-20 times per day.

At the moment, I’m feeling a tonne better and life is starting to return to normal. However if I go too long without eating, the nausea kicks in (and most of the time leads me to vomiting up bile/retching for a good 10 minutes). I’m also struggling with headaches still and some days I feel incredibly tired, yesterday afternoon I fell asleep for an hour sitting on the sofa doing work.
My appetite has changed dramatically and I’m only managing to eat things certain things as most still turn my stomach. Unfortunately, that is rubbish things such as pastries, crap white pasta, noodles, crisps, fries, pizza etc (still do eat lots of oranges, pineapple etc though).

My husband is very very excited for this baby. He has been amazing, running around after me, cooking for me as soon as I say I’m hungry etc. Problem is, he’s made several comments about what I’m eating. Today we popped down to our local café for lunch. I wanted to order a chilli con carne jacket potato but they were out of jackets. I ordered a hot beef sandwich with gravy instead (can take the girl out of the north) and when it arrived, it had a side of chips. My husband was very quiet throughout lunch and I knew it was because of what I was eating. When we arrived home, he mentioned it. Also in early pregnancy he made a comment around how I ‘need to be making smarter food choices’. Don't get me wrong, I don't necessarily disagree with him - I wish I could eat better as I'm definitely starting to get round on the edges and it's awful feeling bloated and bleurgh all the time. Especially as pre-pregnancy I ate pretty well, lots of veggies etc.

AIBU to be annoyed at him and hurt by his comments? He doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong as he says he’s only trying to look after me and wants what is best for me and the baby.

This is super unreasonable I think. Different if you’re monstering g and t every night or something. I was in your position OP and craved carbs to help keep the awful nausea at bay. If my husband had said anything, he would have got short shrift.

Super unreasonable of your husband, I should have said.

He sounds like a dick

I’m sure he isn’t a dick op, kind to cook for you and all. But policing your diet to the extent he’s disapproving of a side of chips is just too much.

I have a theory that baby decides what you eat. When I was pregnant with DD I lived off toffee crisps and coke. I hate coke. She's grown now and basicly lives off chocolate and fizzy drinks. With DS all I wanted was watermelon and grapes and he's now a fruit goblin.

If you're baby wants pizza give them pizza. And tell you DH to stop being a dick. You've already got a mother, you don't need another.

Next time he feels ill be sure to advise him to “make smarter food choices”.

@MashedPotatoBrainz When I was pregnant with DD I lived off toffee crisps and coke. I hate coke.

Currently 12 weeks pregnant and all I want to eat is tomatoes. I have hated tomatoes for 30-odd years!

What an utter wanker. He’s being a dick. You and the baby need to eat what you can stomach. The baby doesn’t give a flying fuck if you have a chip butty or a kale smoothie. Not to be grim but they’re like little parasites! They’ll take all the nutrients they need and if they’re short you’ll get a crazy craving to make it up!
Take care of yourself and feel free to tell him he’s a knob. X

I think he is definitely being unreasonable & a bit judgemental. He should just be glad that you can eat something. It is good to be healthy but it’s all about having a balance of foods. And of course you’re getting rounded - you’re pregnant! Did he comment on your diet, figure etc before you were pregnant? Is he super fit himself, into the gym etc?

I'd be giving him a stock answer each time: "when you're pregnant and vomiting 20 times a day, then you get to comment. Until then I'll eat whatever it takes to stop the nausea"

Rinse and repeat at every pious facial expression, every time he goes quiet and every time he comments.

And of course you’re getting rounded - you’re pregnant! Did he comment on your diet, figure etc before you were pregnant?

To be fair, it doesn't sound like he commented on OP's figure. I think he could have been more sensitive but I also think it's hard to understand how pregnancy makes you feel. I think there are plenty of women who, pre-pregnancy, had ideas about how healthy they'd be, but in reality morning sickness and cravings can really mess up your diet. He definitely needs to be more understanding.

You eat what helps in the first trimester. And for most people, even without the extreme sickness, that's beige carbs. So don't beat yourself up at all. What you're going through sounds horrific. Do what you need to to survive it. Really hope the sickness eases soon! Xx

I don't understand how you're getting 'rounded' if you've been throwing up 15-20 times a day irrespective of what you're eating!

I had hyperemesis with my kids and lost loads of weight at the start of my pregnancies. You have to eat whatever you can keep down!

He's a knob
Eat him if he carries on

YANBU. You get a free pass during the first trimester. He can piss off.