I'll try keep it short.
Partners sister works as a doctor. Her husband has an ok job too. But he is the laziest waste of space in regards to family life. They had a child 6 years ago. He never would do the nappies and things. But his laziness expands to he takes a year to put a blind up. He won't cut the grass. He goes to the pub everyday. He eats out on his own all the time. He's obsessed with beer.
I had a child 6 months after she had hers. Partner's mum lived 20 minutes away from us. An hour and half from her daughter. She choose to move to be with her daughter and help her with childcare and housework. My children have had a different experience completely to her child. They've barely seen them over the years. Everything we've ever tried to arrange with them has to be checked through her daughter. If she needs her we can't have them over. If she's on holiday that week we can't invite them out. They dogsit for her. They clean for her. They do childcare for her. We have accepted that's how it is.
Anyhow as coronavirus has kicked off partner's mum stopped cleaning for them and stayed home. Did all the right things. She's not been anywhere other than food shopping. When we were allowed to meet in gardens a few weeks back they came over. As none of us have been anywhere. We've had food delivered etc. We caught up and it was really nice.
We wanted to go out for a morning next week for our wedding anniversary. So his parents kindly said they will join our bubble and watch our kids.
We found out last week she had been to her daughter house to see them. She cleaned their big house last Thursday. Her daughter got sick Saturday. She has been confirmed with coronavirus yesterday. She's not feeling well.
We've told his mum not to come over. But she has to isolate now anyway.
I'm sooooo frustrated with them all. Not because I wanted a day out. But because why why why can't they clean their own house. How can mil be so irresponsible. Why does money make people behave like they can't get their own hands dirty? She works hard in a very important job. But she does less hours than my partner does. She has a husband who is capable of doing things like hoovering.
I'm just annoyed with them all. Not sure if I'm being judgemental? But now we've got to worry for the next week or so in see partner's mum or dad gets sick. Obviously also worried and hope sil is ok and her child and husband don't get sick. But seriously. Why would someone who works directly with it even risk any of it??