phone use

[strawberrypip]

AIBU to find my husbands phone use so depressing?

he is on it ALL the time. if I ask him to hang out with our baby daughter he will sit her on the sofa next to him, no toys, no entertainment, nothing whilst sat on his phone. if we watch a film together after 5 minutes he will go on his phone then start asking me questions about what is going on. when I'm trying to have a conversation with him over dinner, I get a vague "yeah" which half the time doesnt even make sense to what I've been saying.

these are just a few examples but it is driving me mad. just want to throw the bloody thing out the window!!

oh and he, naturally, dismisses the amount of time he actually spends on it and that it isnt negatively affecting our time together at all.

YANBU. This does my head in. I think a lot of people feel like they're missing out if they're not on their phone.

that's exactly what it feels like - hes always scrolling through social media or talking in multiple group chats. hes just not often very present nowadays. sadly, seems like a reflection of the world we live in now!

My DH is the same - and usually it’s just mindless crap. I truly believe the stimulation is addictive and it can become a habit - he would genuinely find it really hard to have his phone next to him and not be on it. Maybe you could ask your husband about some device free time - ask him to put it upstairs or in another room?

I’m like this. It’s an addiction and I hate it. If I’m not on my phone I feel anxious and like I’m missing something. I don’t want to be this way. I wish I didn’t need a smartphone for work. I’d just have a brick phone. It’s a horrible addiction.

I can identify with your husband. I think I’m actually addicted. It’s not a good way to be. I think I need to make some serious changes because it’s what my children see and I’m starting to feel really down and disappointed in myself that I’m petty certain my kids will look back on their childhood and remember me with a phone in front of my face.

The thing is, he needs to admit it and want to change it.

it's interesting to look at it in that way actually because that's exactly what it seems like - an addiction. if I call him out on it, he will put his phone down and try interact with our daughter or watch the film/eat dinner on our date nights but he automatically picks up his phone after a few minutes. scary really how reliant we have become on them!