AIBU to blare music out when my neighbours children are screaming their fucking heads off?

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I'm just so sick of listening to it, so I'm putting my music on high to drown out the sound of the screaming.

Just wear headphones. You are behaving like a child.

Get some earplugs. You have my sympathy though. Really noisy children, while they obviously can't help it at 18 mo, are not fun to listen to and in should know, I have two 😂. Juuuuuust kidding. Mine really aren't that noisy.

My best friend lives in a block of flats in fairly central london and he really struggles with the noise. He says there is just no time of the day or evening when it is quiet in his flat, with one thing or another.

YWBU to blast music though I think. My neighbours do this and oh god it's horrific. Much worse than the other neighbours' children imo.

And the crucial difference between the screaming toddler and you blasting music, doesn't really need to be pointed out to anyone with any wit.

OP I wonder if you live near me. There’s a boy who just screams and I mean, it’s a scream that could communicate with dolphins. Sounds like a pterodactyl being killed. I was on the phone to my Dad earlier with the windows closed and he said, what on earth was that?! The worst is his parents encourage him to make the noise and keep going louder than him to make him scream louder! My garden is unusable at the moment so I know exactly how you feel!

I can understand, but you're still BU. We live in a small flat and have two 4ish year old girls living above us who have a piercing scream and do it almost all the time. Rarely do they cry, they're just always screaming at something, sometimes it's a tantrum, sometimes it's when they're playing, as well as frequently jumping and running up there.

But I can understand them, they're two very energetic girls living in a tiny flat, they're cooped up way longer than they can obviously cope with. Flats aren't good for kids, and although it's difficult to deal with, we're the adults here and have to be mature and compassionate. Speak to their parent(s) if it's a real issue impacting you and other neighbours (rather than it just being an annoyance) but otherwise you just need to get on with it or move.

Put headphones on and just be thankful you can. Why are you purposely setting out to add to their misery?!

The problem is you could do that, but it will only make the situation worse. You will then stop the child napping etc so they will scream in the night too as they are over tired!!

Turn that music up. YANBU. Awful noise I can't stand it.

I'm so glad my neighbours are both in their 80s and really quiet.

Use your common sense, consider your other neighbours and put fucking earphones in

You’re not a very reasonable person are you? Poor kid will get even more upset listening to your music. Move to a detached home in the middle of nowhere if you don’t like regular kid noise.

Oh and your local anti social behaviour team (if they exist in your area) can fine you for loud music but Will take no action for noisy kids.

Yeah, yabu. I understand why you're bu, but it is still unreasonable.

You're basically having a tantrum about kids having tantrums!

Do you have any head/earphones?

I have a better suggestion (which if this were IRL I’d probably be beaten to death for but here goes)…..

After 6 years on ongoing aural assault from the neighbours screaming kids, doing that “I’m being murdered” scream I have stealthily installed a mosquito sonic device & it certainly keeps the squealers away from my house……whilst the parents don’t hear it at all….

Obviously, I've tried to speak politely to the parents many times, but had the usual apathetic “kids will be kids” response…. Ok – so game on – you say you can’t control your children & I can’t control my reaction to loud discordant noises (and I really cant, I have fibromyalgia, misophonia & HSP) so mosquito device it is then…..

If parents would actually ask their children not to scream when they play we’d be fine, but they just ignore them & are happy they are screaming somewhere else so this is the only solution…..

I don’t feel guilty in the slightest, if their parents don’t want to keep the noise level down after enduring the wailing/screeching for >6 years, up to 16 hours a day, I’m now able to sit in my back garden without bleeding eardrums……. total result.

Feel like this thread is a repeat?
But YABU as two wrongs don't make right plus your wrong is bigger as you are an adult.

I hate that scream some kids do so glad mine didn't. once stayed in a hotel where a kid was screaming/crying at like 1am for over 2 hours I ended up calling reception as I felt i was going insane they went and knocked on the door and the child (about 2 or 3 - he could speak clearly) was silent after that then I was concerned they had harmed him! Did get sleep though and see him at breakfast he seemed fine. Couldnt deal with that for the rest of my life 1 night was bad enough.

Unfair in upstairs neighbour and the baby may be in pain from teething

Irritating though it is suggest you get some good headphones.

In today’s childcentric society the odds are clearly stacked in the favour of children & their entitled parents so screaming children & inconsiderate parents are now the norm…… as I type this (wearing noise cancelling headphones) there are hordes of feral screeching kids screaming at the top of their lungs for attention right outside my house & have been doing so for the past 7 hours……. None of the parents have asked them to quieten down…… this is ‘normal’ where I live – often happening at well past midnight.

Really no point in even communicating with the parents because they think little “Bratleigh” is perfect in every way & an extension of themselves……they won’t even listen to you I guarantee it.

Another interesting take on this is “Oh, think of the parents”….. oh it must be SO awful for THEM!!?...

Yes – it may well be awful for them, but they made a lifestyle choice to have children – their neighbours didn’t…… so, no, I don’t have any sympathy for them.

And, if I decided to start drilling at 5am would anybody think about how I was affected by the noise?.... no, probably not, as this was my choice.

Same applies with screaming kids but headphones have saved my sanity & that’ll do for me until I move away from my neighbourhood which has become a noisy ghetto.

YABU. It’s a toddler
And? Of course a 18 months child can start learning that screaming non stop is not acceptable. You TEACH them by distracting them, by making soothing sound to calm them, by asking them questions to find out why they are screaming.

So tired of lazy parenting and the 'but they can't help it' which really stands for ' I can't be bothered to do something about it' and consider that others therefore have to.putvuo with it.

Selfish and lazy.

@dontdisturbmenow, what a well thought out and nuanced argument. Totally untrue, ignorant and judgemental.

[quote everythingbackbutyou]@dontdisturbmenow, what a well thought out and nuanced argument. Totally untrue, ignorant and judgemental.[/quote]
No, it isn't. It's true.

Most people manage to teach their children what is acceptable behaviour. And we rightly judge those who don't. (SEN Excepted)

The thing about most Childcentric societies is that they teach their kids to not screech and disturb others...
Why is it in this country no one wants to take responsibility for their own?

If you are that bloody unreasonable that you are cursing a 1 year old who can’t help it then why on Earth are you living in a flat with people above and below you? You are almost certainly going to get moose of some type!

It’s extremely unlikely that the parents are just ‘letting them scream non stop’ why on earth would they want to be in a flat with that? Maybe they have other kids, maybe some of the kids have SEN, maybe it’s a single parent or one adult on their own with lots of kids, no one wants to listen to anyone screaming so I would have thought they would be trying to make the child stop if they could!