To ask do you think you can have a successful marriage if you and your children have no relationship with in-laws whilst husband has a close relationship?

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Trying to avoid drip feeding specifics as it is very very long winded, and I just wondered on a more general basis what others feelings were around this, and if anyone actually has this situation?

Not unless both members of the couple able to completely compartmentalise the PIL/DH relationship, which is pretty much impossible imho.

I think the manipulative PIL would make it very difficult and DH would be in a difficult situation. I think the relationship could still be successful but it require more work.

You can make lots of unusual situations work.

What might be tricky is that the dh in this situation hasn't got the dws back. It's fine if he wants to go off on, say, a Saturday afternoon for an hour to see his parents. But what if the dw is nc because they were complete cunts to her.

I'd have no issue with my dh seeing his parents, in the main, on his own. But I'd have more of a problem with him doing that if actually, he needed to stick up for me and by going he wasn't iyswim?

What does your husband think of it?
I just can't imagine myself in this situation, either they are horrible people and you're all low contact / no contact, or they're decent and you all get on well.
It sounds as though you've made a unilateral decision that they can't see your children, I imagine that would go down like a shit sandwich in my house.