60 inch tv in nursery?

[Rwoolley]

Not sure if IABU with this or if it's a hill to die on.

Currently our spare room has a big TV on the wall for guests to use when staying over. This room is slowly being turned into our nursery and DH says we should keep the TV on the wall.

Imo it's such a waste of wall space when we might need to use it for bookshelves, or even might need to put the cot on that wall (due to how other furniture fits in) *at least he agrees having a cot under the TV is a no no

He says it will be good for us to use if we need to sleep in the room and doesn't want to take it down.

AIBU for thinking this is ridiculous?

Sell it or break it, if he insists on being deluded. I vaguely recall research showing adverse effects of TV in children's rooms. I'm not even sure if TV in nursery was even looked at or if they used the 'that's deluded' by inspection test. If he thinks he can watch tv with the child then deluded - if child is awake then should be interacting with them. If sleeping or trying to then quiet time. Could he be thinking he'll get a good night sleep there and watch TV while baby is being settled by you in main bedroom? Good luck.

There's no way I'd have a TV in any bedroom. I understand guests needing their own space to retreat to if they stay for weeks though.

On the sleeping point, can you fit the double bed in the nursery as well as a cot? It makes life a lot easier once DC is safe to sleep in it if they wake in the night, are ill or need a parent for one of many reasons if you can just get into bed with them.

I really don't understand the idea that you are never allowed to watch TV with a child in the house! Clearly you lot didn't have children who refused to sleep. For a period of 4 months DS was constantly awake during the night and tv kept everyone sane and awake!

It's very odd to have guests that stay for weeks at a time and retire to their own quarters to watch tv. Are you running a hostel?

Do people deliberately misread or fail to read threads?! And then make bizarre assumptions and judgements such as OP and her family placing too much ‘value’ on watching TV?!

I don’t understand this place sometimes.

She bought a new TV. As the old one was still fine they moved it to a guest room rather than binning it. That room is now to become the room of her adoptive child. She wants to take it down as it’s quite big. Her partner does not.

For what it’s worth, @Rwoolley I’m with you. Pop the TV in the other spare room. Any child doesn’t need a tv in their room 🙂

I thought 42 inch was too big for the living room, never mind as a spare. Ours is ten years old and no plan to replace as we don’t care about TV reall, but looking to buy for a spare 32 inch now kids are older. What’s so good about the new TV?

I guess initially the TV won’t be an issue as you don’t have to switch it on. Selling it and buying a smaller spare could be a good compromise as you start to fill the room. Nobody needs two huge TVs.

I don’t have experience of adoption but my kids still occasionally sleep with us, so I’m guessing you may spend time in there, especially in the evening. Or in your own room. A TV may be useful but not so huge, perhaps that’s a good way to negotiate a smaller screen. Although my iPad was ideal in those early days (year) with a clingy child.

@Winterwoollies I read the thread, am just struggling to understand why you would replace a working 60inch tv with another working 60inch tv?

[quote AldiAisleofCrap]@Rwoolley but the tv didn’t need replacing if you brought the same size one. Why did you buy a new one?[/quote]
Because we wanted an 8k one

Why does it matter?

@Thisismytimetoshine

It's very odd to have guests that stay for weeks at a time and retire to their own quarters to watch tv. Are you running a hostel?

Nope

Have family overseas and sometimes we get under each other's skin, so they will some days go to bed after dinner and watch a film

Jeez the questions on this are something else

@Rwoolley it doesn’t matter, it’s just not a usual priority.

@dobbyssoc

I really don't understand the idea that you are never allowed to watch TV with a child in the house! Clearly you lot didn't have children who refused to sleep. For a period of 4 months DS was constantly awake during the night and tv kept everyone sane and awake!

@dobbyssoc Perhaps a this is why your DS was awake during the night? Flashing lights are very stimulating. Pitch black at night and lots of light during the day are pretty much the most basic sleep advice there is especially for young babies to learn night from day.

OP who cares why you got a new TV. It is perfectly acceptable to replace a working TV with a better same size TV, you don't have to explain yourself. TV in the nursery is not nice and looks tacky. Take it out.

Can it be used a monitor and then could have some use in the smaller room, whilst it is still being used as a office? Massive but good if either of you need to practice presentations.

@ShinyShooney nope he'd only sleep if you were holding him. We tried for a week with nothing on dark room etc and he wasn't having any of it. You had to be holding him for him to go down and if you put him down he'd scream.
As guidelines say not to fall asleep with your child you have to keep yourself awake. I don't know about you but a pitch dark quite room isn't great for trying to do that!

No way even with the sound down no baby needs the stimulation of TV pictures in a room where they sleep, especially on a 60 inch screen. Who would even think it reasonable?

Do the agency placing the child check the nursery, if so I would expect them to think a 60” TV very inappropriate.

Congratulations OP you're doing a wonderful thing.

The snobbery on this thread is hilarious 🤣

[quote AldiAisleofCrap]@Rwoolley it doesn’t matter, it’s just not a usual priority.[/quote]
Why does a new purchase need to be a priority?

Jeez the questions on this are something else
Sez the one asking about a 60" TV in a nursery... 😂 Can you hear yourself?

@fatgirlslimmer

No way even with the sound down no baby needs the stimulation of TV pictures in a room where they sleep, especially on a 60 inch screen. Who would even think it reasonable?

Do the agency placing the child check the nursery, if so I would expect them to think a 60” TV very inappropriate.

This is a good point, they have done a video tour of the rooms in the house and didn't mention the TV at the time but worst case scenario I can just say to DH they expressed concerns.

Don't get me wrong he will agree to move the TV it just depends how much back and fourth it will take

@Thisismytimetoshine

Jeez the questions on this are something else Sez the one asking about a 60" TV in a nursery... 😂 Can you hear yourself?

Asking whether I was unreasonable to think a large TV needs to be taken out for a nursery, doesn't really need comments on why there is a TV in there, why did we replace the TV in the living room, why guests use the TV when they stay over.

Also sez? Really

I would be concerned if my DH even thought about leaving it there never mind back and forth. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@sonicbook

Congratulations OP you're doing a wonderful thing.

The snobbery on this thread is hilarious 🤣

Indeed - and it's passive aggressive snobbery too.

All this "it's odd that you..." or "I'm trying to understand..." followed by a thinly veiled insult or judgement.

Make the smaller room the nursery and keep the big one in the larger guest room. Babies don’t need much space for the first couple of years but guests staying for several weeks at a time do.

I would definitely move the tv to the other room. Congratulations on the adoption - what a wonderful thing to do.

TV in spare room.

Def out the nursery.

If you're stuck in there settling a baby you will not want telly on, even quietly. Also you'll likely be on the floor so won't really be usable. If baby wants noise or light get a mobile thing, not telly. You'll just create problems for later life.