To still be upset with my friend two months after she took me coming out as bi badly?

[unstableunicorn]

This is long, sorry for the essay!

I told one of my closest and oldest friends that I'm bi, it might sound silly but I really was nervous about it and she was one of the first people I told. It went really badly, she made the entire thing about herself - apparently she feels betrayed I 'kept this secret from her', was offended that she wasn't absolute first to know (I told her my friends from uni knew, I was openly out when at uni as no one there knew me), and said a lot of hurtful stuff - nothing ought homophobic but things like how 'she's traditional', comparing it to her secretly dating her first boyfriend etc. I even ended up apologising for making her feel bad. Oh god the sheer stupidity of some of the stuff said, my blood's boiling just thinking about it...

We met again after a week and she refused to understand why I was upset, called me aggressive, emotionally manipulative and an emotion enforcer because I told her how distressing it was, it didn't go well. Some time later she apologised with literally 'I'm sorry, hollyoaks has shown me the light'. Wtf? In some episode one character slept with his girlfriends mum which showed her 'love has no boundaries', which to me seemed irritating and problematic. Then she got defensive and passively aggressively deflected her apology onto my past mistakes bringing up irrelevant things like me forgetting her birthday once as if it's on the same level.

Anyway since then, in her eyes she apologised so the matter is shut and any remaining resentment is me having issues. However I've been either distant or snappy with her since, I can't seem to get over it ( the smallest things she says infuriate me) which she's annoyed about. She thinks I'm being unreasonable, I don't think I am but can't tell anymore. Is this something to potentially lose a very close old friend over? Or at least still be upset over two months later?

some friend. Why is your sexual orientation of any relevance or interest to her unless she wants to have sex with you? The normal reaction to this is 'fine, so what?' and then to carry on as usual.

dump. Bigoted cow.

Honestly I'm confused by her reaction because I've never exactly hidden it. I've told her when I've fancied girls, but she thought those were just 'girl crushes'

@Dyrne I think I'd be the same. But with me, the only peope who knew were a couple of uni friends, and I never had to tell them, it was just part of me from the get go. I did really stress to this friend that she was the first person I actually told who mattered. I think it gets on my nerves that instead of feeling like I trusted her, she feels entitled to know

This friendship sounds dead in the water.

She's behaved like an idiot. However, you also don't sound willing to genuinely move on and accept her apology either.

If you cannot move past this and cannot accept her apology and try to get your friendship back on track then sack it off. You cannot live with resentment.