Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

cat neighbour wars

34 replies

questionzzz · 19/07/2020 18:52

Asking for my youngest DB who lives in London.
For context: he moved to London from our home country several years ago and ended up settling there with his wife. They adopted a street cat as a kitten whom they adore to bits. Regular vets check up, micro-chipped. She's an outdoor cat. He's younger than me, and a wonderful brother to me and uncle to my kids. He is really distressed about this.
They've moved a new neighbourhood, and an elderly neighbour has started feeding their cat. She has bought fancy expensive cat food for this cat, which she came round to show my brother. DB was not happy and said he'd have to see if the vet approved her having this food (I don't know what it is). Anyway the neighbour had some sort of meltdown, said that "the cat is free to choose her owner in the UK" and "there have been court cases about this" and "he has no right to maniuplate the cat". DB feels threatened by her. Then the cat started staying out over night and they were worried sick. I don't if the elderly neighbour said as much, or if he's just guessing, but he is sure that she is keeping their cat "locked up" at night. I told him to calm down and most people lock their doors at night. he talked with the neighbours husband yesterday who he says is much more rational and "a normal person", and he has promised not to feed their cat or keep it overnight.

Anyway, I guess here is the question: do people really go to court over this sort of thing? is there such a thing as "the cat a has a right to choose her owner"? Added context is that DB and his wife are not yet citizens of UK (they are there residing / working legally), so this kind of thing is really freaking him out. I have never lived in London. I want to reassure him that the cat lady will not sue him over their cat.

OP posts:
Notredamn · 19/07/2020 19:27

This happened to me. Next door neighbour started enticing our cat into her home and cats being cats, he went where the better deal for him was. He now spends more time there than with us and we have to accept it.

spinningaround72 · 19/07/2020 19:28

Cats are legal property. If she will not stop feeding it then try keeping the cat inside for a bit and she and they cat will get out of the habit.

Maybe look at one of the cat flaps that work off chips. We have one and it is great for tracking where the cats are and we can put a curfew on it and lock it etc.

Soubriquet · 19/07/2020 19:29

What would happen if your cat needed the vet @Notredamn

Cos if the answer is, they would come to you, you need to clamp down

Notredamn · 19/07/2020 19:32

It's still down to me to pay as he's legally my cat.
But he is so used to being next door with all the other cats who live there that he automatically spends most of his time there now. The woman has a cat flap which is set to give entry but not exit and he will just go via the cat flap. Then the neighbour comes round with anecdotes about what my cat has been up to every other day Hmm

Soubriquet · 19/07/2020 19:35

Charming

Tavannach · 19/07/2020 19:37

Btw when people talk about cats choosing their owners they're referring to when you go to pick a kitten from a litter, or to a rescue, one kitten will detach itself from the group and run up to you. It's perhaps not the first one you would have picked but that kitten has chosen you. This works.

fairydustandpixies · 19/07/2020 19:37

Is it worth getting a GPS pet tracker to put on the cat's collar? He'd know for sure then where the cat goes when it disappears.

Hannah888 · 19/07/2020 19:44

I've had this and it's awful Op. When my cat 'disappeard' for a couple of hours I used to ring my neighbour and ask him if he had seen the cat and he would always say no but the cat would then turn up! He would close him in his house.Its very difficult to cat proof a garden. In the end I got solicitor to send a letter. It frightened him and he finally stopped it.

dayslikethese1 · 21/07/2020 13:10

I don't understand why people who do this don't get their own cat, there's literally hundreds in rescue centres. I've lost 2 cats this way (and each time the people don't want to pay the vets bill when the cat is sick). Luckily my cat now doesn't go far, she's not much of a wanderer (boy cats are worse for this than girl cats imo).

New posts on this thread. Refresh page