Ex taking DS away with telling me

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I wasn't sure where to post this, so sorry if it's in the wrong place!

Have awful relationship with my ex, all communication about our DS is through a family member of mine due to abusive messages from him.

He has DS this weekend, Friday to Monday. Asked if could have him until Tuesday as they wanted to do something Monday evening. I said yes ok.

I was talking to a mutual friend today who said it must be nice for my DS to have a trip away. I asked what they meant and they said that my ex has taken DS on a mini holiday in the UK. I asked where, they weren't sure on exact place but thought it was around 7 hours from where we live.

Is this ok? I would never stop my ex from taking DS away but I have no idea where he currently is?

Please tell me if I'm being silly

@heartsonacake you really think it's none of a parent's business where their child is?
No-one is saying he needs permission or that the OP has the right to veto the plans but she has the right to know where he is.

I'm honestly baffled. I have divorced and separated friends and even the ones that can't stand each other would never behave like this.

All it would take is a quick message (via a 3rd party in this case). I'm taking X away, we're going to Devon, back Tuesday.

@dontdisturbmenow they don't communicate directly because he was sending her abusive messages. How is that her fault?

Ex has now messaged family member and said they are going to stay a bit longer so won't be returning DS until Friday. I'm rather upset as I had plans with DS for Wednesday which have now been ruined!

Woah do you know where yet?

@lilmishap No I have no idea where DS is

Nothing you can do.

He has parental responsibility, you’re facilitating and consenting to handing him over.

Your only option is to wait til Friday and then look at your position going forward

Get legal advice, get whatever order needs to be in place from preventing this and until it is in place there will be no contact at all. If he wants to take you to court, let him. Cos that’s where you need this sorting out