Is this really mean?

[Busymum45]

Dh having an op soon Which will.take months of recovery. He said the kids (teenagers) and I should get away for a break so I'm thinking of taking them for a night away by the coast. I just feel so guilty leaving dh behind, in a cast, unable to do much whilst we have a jolly.
Am I being unfair? Would you go?

Thanks even though most votes think I'm being unreasonable!
Was going to book on a flexible rate so I can change or cancel if needed x

Your DH sounds very thoughtful.
He also sounds like he's hoping for a bit peace and time on his own after being laid up a few weeks.
Go

I would be wondering why he wanted me out of the way tbh.

Christ, what a suspicious and miserable way to lead your life! Although I admire your optimism on the husband’s part - if he can get off with some fancy woman while in traction, he must be either incredibly dexterous, determined or both!

OP - I think you should wait a couple of weeks to see how he gets on and then book it. It’s one night, your kids will enjoy it and, given your husband was the one who actually suggested it, he obviously thinks he can cope.

Thanks even though most votes think I'm being unreasonable!

Obviously I’m only speculating, but because of how you phrased your question, maybe people are saying YABU to worry about going?

My next issue is finding somewhere for me and the teens for a night lol....was thinking coastal

Still feel incredibly guilty if we do go.

It’s only a night, go and enjoy it, and he then also gets a night with the house to himself

Yep he says he can play his music loud and have a few beers lol

@cuntryclub

I would be wondering why he wanted me out of the way tbh. Why can't you have a holiday together? People do it with casts/crutches/wheelchairs all the time

Yeah he's clearly waited for this op to have his gf over for the weekend whilst op is away 😂

Yeah he's clearly waited for this op to have his gf over for the weekend whilst op is away 😂

This is not what I said.

Some of the benefits for him would be - nobody fussing over him, he'd hopefully be out of the most intense pain, he'd be weightbearing, so well able to get from the settee to the fridge and back and from the settee to the door to collect the pizza and back, no noise, able to watch whatever he wants on telly all day and night, fart unencumbered by social niceties, starfish in bed...

Time to yourself at home when you never normally get it is as much as a holiday as you'll be having with the DC.

Give the guy what he wants. And enjoy it.

Thanks, I worry more as he suffers with depression although improvement since being on medication. Didn't want him falling into a dark spot , saying that time to himself for 2 days and one night might help?

I wouldn't book anything non refundable. Some times operations and recoveries do not go as planned.

We've chatted again today, dh adamant we go , says he'll be happy as a pig in shit having house to himself!!!