Unwarranted weight loss advise. AIBU to think this is very CF?

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My aunt has just sent me these over WhatsApp, some silly insoles that purport to aid weight loss. She thought I might be interested.

I've never spoken to her about wanting to lose weight. I'm 10 stone not morbidly obese.

Privately I would like to lose a few lbs but I would hope that anybody looking at me wouldn't assume I need to

I think this is pretty cheeky to be fair. I'm not impressed.

You need to shut this shit down, you really do.

After a spat with a family member who sent a rude WhatsApp, my advice would be to ignore anything that offends you. It will leave them feeling stupid and insignificant.

Her response is plain nonsense, she's feeling stupid. Keep it that way by disengaging.

I've just asked her directly whether she's implying I need to lose weight and she said certainly not, so she's back tracking now.

She did think that otherwise she wouldn't have sent it surely.

Meh. She has form for being insensitive unfortunately it's nothing new.

Just mute the notifications to her chat. You don't have to see them then. She's unlikely to stop being rude even if you ask, people like her can't be stopped.

Just wait till you see her and make an inappropriate comment about her weight, see how she likes it.

I'd send her this link.

Just shut it down now OP. You’ve (rightly) put her in her place. There’s no need for further discussion.

The conversation has ended now I can't be bothered to go round the houses with her but she knew what she was implying and so do I.

Some people eh.

Did you tell her she's two stone heavier than you!! I don't think it would have been able to resist!

Block the old git

That’s pretty bad given your history. What a cruel person.

Call her out on it, and say you're not really sure what she meant but you found it hurtful and insensitive and see what she has to say.

She is a cheeky fucker. If she ever starts this shit up again then shut her down instantly.

My DD is a diagnosed anorexic and is just emerging from it. I would be horrified if anyone sent her any such shit.

YANBU. My parents are from a country where comments about weight are fair game. Someone exclaimed ‘you’ve ruined your figure!’ to me recently. I would comment on anyone’s weight, slim or overweight.

*I would never

It's an odd thing to do. If she doesn't think she needs to lose weight at 12 stone, why would she think you need to at 10 stone?

I don't think it was intended to upset me but it was a thoughtless and rude thing to do.

She's very narrow minded by nature.

It also annoys me how because I'm the youngest member of the family (my children aside) she treats me like a child. I'm 26.

There is never any malice in it but it's rude and she can be annoying.

Maybe you can be equally helpful and suggest some books about good manners?

What @SummerPoppies said - I laughed out loud!