Okay, it's 3am and I'm really quite sleep deprived so I may be more reactive than usual but AIBU? BFing 5wk old DS has been a nightmare - blocked ducts, mastitis etc. Also he quite often grunts and strains for ages after a feed so I can't get back to sleep. Saw feeding specialist yesterday who said probably wind so he needs winding after a feed.
As I'm doing all the feeding DH has been doing nappies - so I generally wake up and feed, DS is changed, I feed on the other side. I'm up for about 50 mins, DH for about 5 in the middle (gives me chance to go to the loo and have a drink, and means I'm not carrying DS more than necessary with my painful chest and my neck injury that makes holding him difficult).
Asked him to wind DS after feed. He plonks him face down on his chest and sort of jiggles him a bit. I point out that that won't work and DS needs to be upright. He lets him slide down to his side so DS is upright but his head is at a weird angle and half heartedly pats him a bit. DH is clearly falling asleep and there's no way I'm leaving DS like that so I ask him to sit up and do it properly. He says 'oh it's fine' and refuses to do anything else so I give up and get cross and do it myself. I ended up yelping in pain as DS presses really hard into a painful but on my chest and DH asks if he can help. I retort that I'd already asked him to but he couldn't be bothered to do it properly so he might as well go back to sleep. Get so fed up I bring DS into the spare room and sit doing it myself with him kicking me rather painfully in my poor swollen mastitisy boobs and my neck killing me.
I am now right royally pissed off because I've been up for ninety minutes, I asked DH to do one little thing to help and he couldn't be bothered. He doesn't have work in the morning or I wouldn't mind. I am in pain, keep getting headaches from sleep deprivation and really needed him to do this and I'm really cross!! AIBU?