Is this a CF or AIBU

[Hangingwithmygnomies]

We have a local FB page where you can post items for free. I'm having a clear out of children's toys ready for my son's birthday next week. I gave away a child's ride along toy to someone and 20 minutes after it was collected, it was on a different local selling site for a fee. Now normally it wouldn't really bother me but this particular free site states that items aquired are not to be sold on and I put it up as someone might have wanted it who (given current financial climate for many) might not be able to afford it. My DH thinks it's not an issue but I feel really pissed off. I sent them a message and called them out on it, to be told their DC "didn't want it" and they had bills to pay and they were looking out for their family. I get that but it cost them nothing, so if they didn't want it they could've passed it onto someone else. The only reason I offered it was because I was hoping to help someone, not have someone turn a profit on it. So AIBU or were they?

Omg your being unreasonable. I certainly get your point. But I would still think of it as giving back and I wouldn't judge the woman for immediately selling it. It might be literally the only way to help the child. A cool you is always great but so is having food in their belly

So be honest. Ask for donations you can sell on. Loads if people want to get rid of stuff and would be happy to help a needy family. Why be a lying nob about it?

I think what they replied is probably total bullshit. They had no intention of giving it to any child and were just profiteering from other people’s charitable giveaways. People are gross.

I think it's a pretty unethical thing to do and it annoys me too.

We had a local town group, where a young mum rocked up demanding free clothes for her baby (you couldn't call it asking!) - she was abrupt and terse, but people here are kind and offered her stuff because she was "doing it tough".
Not long after, someone posted a screenshot of her boasting of having just bought a $300 ticket to see a band - which really upset people who had given her stuff in good faith.
She was banned from the group too.

Seriously, why are there always people on these threads who reckon that it must really have been someone in financial need and the person being used is somehow unreasonable for not being able to see that?

Are people really so naive as to not know that the majority of these people are just opportunist pisstakers? Or are the people who make these claims the types who would likely do the same?

If people are that hard-up (and chances are she wasn’t,) then they should find their own way to make money. Not take advantage of someone who is trying to give something back or deprive someone who really would benefit from the item for their own child.

These groups have rules against this kind of behaviour for very good reasons. Because they’re often seen as a space for these opportunist vultures who aren’t even all that clever if they’re selling the goods under the same name within minutes...

I’m glad she was banned.

@Winterwoollies

I think what they replied is probably total bullshit. They had no intention of giving it to any child and were just profiteering from other people’s charitable giveaways. People are gross.

You are absolutely right! Someone else from the free FB group has just messaged me a pic of something else on the selling site that I had donated. Can't tell me their child has read 10 books since yesterday evening (David Walliams type books). I've been blocked by that person now so can't call them out on this one now. I agree - people are gross

You could sell it yourself if you wanted to, if you give it away then there is always the chance that it will be sold on.

@betteliefsen

You could sell it yourself if you wanted to, if you give it away then there is always the chance that it will be sold on.

But I didn't want to sell it, I wanted to give it to someone who would benefit from something they might not be able to afford, plus to take something from this particular group to sell on is against the group rules. The books have annoyed me more as some people can't afford to spend money on books and my son wanted to give them to another child to enjoy