Baby name

[Clove20]

DP and I are having a baby girl.

We have decided her first name will be Isabella as we both love the name.
She will have 2 middle names (one from DPs family and one from mine).

I would prefer the 1st middle name is from DPs family and 2nd middle name is from mine.

There are not many names I like from both our family trees, but one of his mums middle names is Cathleen and I thought that would go well "Isabella Cathleen"

DP isn't keen on it because Cathleen is his mums 2nd middle name and "therefore our baby should also have it as a 2nd middle name"

Is it just me or that just sounds silly as we would be honouring his mum anyway regardless of where her name comes??

Yeah do it in which ever order sounds nicest- nobody ever uses middle names in real life situations so don't overthink it!

So what’s the third name? We can soon say which order sounds better 😃

The 3rd name is really just for the birth certificate and will never be used. We're from different ethnic backgrounds.

I've done the same with my DS who is 6 (3rd name is from my cultural background). Just always want my children to have a name from my cultural background even if it's not used.

I'd go with the order you've already used with your ds. Shame her cultural name won't be used though.

@bobbiepin it is a shame but I have my reasons based on my experiences over the last 20 years.
Wouldn't want my DC having to go through years of
"Where's that from"

"How do you spell it"

"Say it again"

Etc

[quote Clove20]@bobbiepin it is a shame but I have my reasons based on my experiences over the last 20 years.
Wouldn't want my DC having to go through years of
"Where's that from"

"How do you spell it"

"Say it again"

Etc [/quote]
My partner gets this all the time (he is African, his first name is a popular English name but none of the rest are) its bloody rude actually. 'Where's that from?' or 'Mmm I wasn't expecting an English accent'.
No idea about the orders of your chosen baby names, I would have though the 1st middle name would be the 'optimal' spot. You are arguing the wrong way round

I am arguing the wrong way round. But to be honest I'm just not willing to put my DC through that.
It is rude but people always do it anyway.
& we live in an area were it is very much likely to happen on a regular basis.

That's even more of a shame. I'm sorry you have to go through that. I've had similar but not to that extent. Do you use cultural names at home or with family?