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AIBU?

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Original poster

To have asked her to stop honking her horn

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 15:27

Probably was unreasonable but I've just gone outside to ask a lady to stop honking her horn (honked it 6 times - she was joking around trying to hurry a friend up who was in her house). 2 of my neighbours and myself all have young babies who nap during the day at the front of the house. I just find it so unnecessary to be honking the horn like that. She does it most weeks and I just had enough today.
I wasn't arsey and asked nicely and she just laughed and shook her head. She's probably going to do it more now isn't she. Argh!
I know, I know - I should move to a quieter area if it bothers me that much!

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Kazzyhoward · 17/07/2020 16:27

It's an offence to use a car horn when stationery except in an emergency, so you are definitely NBU. Laws/rules were put into place to stop people being stupid twats and causing nuisance and annoyance.

BobFleming · 17/07/2020 16:29

Twats beeping their horns unnecessarily really annoy me. Idiots.

diddl · 17/07/2020 16:30

It's not about knowing whether or not the street is full of sleeping babies-it's about not being an inconsiderate twat.

And maybe her friend could learn to be on time!

PhilCornwall1 · 17/07/2020 16:31

@tara66

If she does it again - go out with pen and paper and write down license plate number pointedly in front of her. Tell her you're reporting her to police for 'nuisance'', excessive noise and anything else you can think of.

Probably not worth reporting to the Police, it won't be high on their list of things to follow up I'd have thought.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 16:34

Yep I did Mrsbaptiste. Is it the end of the world? Nope! Was it justified? Yep-I thought so. :)

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 16:37

Doubt I'd report to the police, but I will speak to the neighbour if it keeps happening. The bottom line is that there isn't really a need to be doing it. Its inconsiderate. Babies aside, we probably have shift workers on the estate too who also nap in the day.

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MrsClatterbuck · 17/07/2020 16:40

An ex bf and policeman referred to this as indiscriminate use of a horn. Police can issue a fixed penalty notice of £30. Or the council can also intervene.

GabsAlot · 17/07/2020 16:59

nah not supposed to use it to tell your mate youve arrived-its t alert people of danger

heymacaroner · 17/07/2020 17:05

I'd be willing to bet she hadn't really thought about the disturbance before, feels a bit embarrassed now it's been pointed out to her and probably felt a bit off guard being asked to stop hence the reaction from her.
You weren't unreasonable in asking her not to, everyone expects noise of various kinds unless they live in the middle of nowhere but it's unnecessary noise serving no real purpose except presumably as a bit of a joke to her friend so I think it's fair to ask her to stop as it's not the first time.
It sounds like you feel you asked her politely so you acted reasonably. If you'd gone out with a crowbar and smashed through her headlights it would be a different story.

Anniegetyourgun · 17/07/2020 17:11

When I was young, when you wanted to get someone's attention you rang their doorbell/knocked on their door, thus politely attracting the attention only of the person you are coming to see. Informing the entire street of your presence is inconsiderate and unnecessary. That's why there's a law against it (although, as others have said, getting anything done about it is pretty near impossible).

LonginesPrime · 17/07/2020 18:10

Babies aside, we probably have shift workers on the estate too who also nap in the day.

No one needs that awful noise, and there are heaps of people who'd be bothered by it - people WFH dealing with customers, people with sensory issues or anxiety, jumpy rescue dogs, etc.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 18:29

Yep totally. It's a nuisance noise and just really unnecessary isn't it? Hopefully she will be more mindful now I've said something. I'm really not a confrontational person but felt I had to say something.

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MulticolourMophead · 17/07/2020 18:37

We had someone on our street parping their horn earlier. So unnecessary. Not much traffic to get in the way of actually getting out and knocking on the door, so why didn't they?

Plus we have a youngster with a Golf that has modified exhausts, so that's a bundle of laughs when he's revving the engine, or even just running the engine while waiting for whatever. Luckily, the car hasn't been here for a few days, and I keep hoping it won't come back.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 20:41

Its so annoying isn't it? Fortunately the person in question hasn't done it again today. Hopefully it's done with now.

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ToBBQorNotToBBQ · 17/07/2020 20:43

YANBU shes rude to do that

livefornaps · 17/07/2020 20:45

All this talk of horn is giving me the horn y'all

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 22:07

Spoke too soon. Its 10pm and she's just dropped neighbour off and beeped to say bye. Inconsiderate knob.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 17/07/2020 22:18

@Fedupmum13

Spoke too soon. Its 10pm and she's just dropped neighbour off and beeped to say bye. Inconsiderate knob.

I think you should have a word with your neighbour. It can still be polite and so on, and you can let her know you asked honking twat to stop. If she didn't do it earlier, this might have been out of habit...still, you may have better luck bringing it up with the person who has to live with the neighbours' disapproval.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 22:24

Yeh. I think I'll have to. I'm just concerned I'll be met with hostility. I'll see how the next few days go and see if they do it again. If they do, I'm going to take their registration plate in case it's needed (hopefully won't be) and then will speak to them.
Why can't people be normal?! I really really don't want to argue with neighbours

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ShebaShimmyShake · 17/07/2020 22:27

@Fedupmum13

Yeh. I think I'll have to. I'm just concerned I'll be met with hostility. I'll see how the next few days go and see if they do it again. If they do, I'm going to take their registration plate in case it's needed (hopefully won't be) and then will speak to them. Why can't people be normal?! I really really don't want to argue with neighbours

You might be, unfortunately, but if you don't, you know this shithead will carry on honking her horn at all hours, over and over, waking the baby, waking the night workers and generally causing a noise nuisance in your street. Perhaps contact your council for advice? Might help if you can keep a diary of the noise, even better if you could record it (not easy to whip your phone out at the right moment, I know).

Laughing and outright refusing to keep it down after being asked nicely is quite weird behaviour.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 22:31

Yeh you're right. I'll muster up some courage. Thank you.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 17/07/2020 22:36

Let us know how it goes. Remember you're 100% in the right, even if neighbour is a cow too.

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Fedupmum13 · 17/07/2020 22:38

Thank you. I'll give it a few days and maybe go over Monday or Tuesday depending on the situation.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 17/07/2020 22:40

Good luck.

Shizzlestix · 17/07/2020 22:43

Take the baby with you and tell the neighbour her lazy arse inconsiderate friend has woken your child up multiple times and you will report her if she does it again.

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