AIBU to ask what chores your 9 year old does around the house?

[Sundiamond]

Realised DS needs to do more around the house - I can see how easy it would be to do everything and for him to grow lazy. Currently, he tidies his room every week. Reluctantly, he also loads the dishwasher after dinner.

What other chores do your similar aged kids do? And do you link it to reward or just because we're all part of a family etc?

I have an eight year old and he's expected to tidy up after himself (toys etc), set the table at mealtimes and help to clear up after dinner. He generally helps out in the garden too.

His paid chore is to dust the bedrooms and skirting boards every week which he gets £1.50 for. He's starting to get good at saving his money to but more expensive games and toys rather than blow it all on blind bags so we introduced the paid job to help with this.

zero they are bloody children

My 9yo is expected to pick up after herself, put laundry away, put her plate in the dishwasher. Helps feed the cats if I'm busy in the morning. She takes turns with her sister with loading the dishwasher and laying the table. She's learning how to strip and remake her bed but is usually beaten by the duvet cover.

Mine tidies her room and picks up after herself, puts her own plate in the kitchen etc. She puts her own washing away.

My son (10) cleans his room, which he is not good at. But he will also set the table, load the dishwasher, sweep, play with or watch the toddler (he's done that since she was a baby,) help in the garden. He takes care of his own laundry, as well.

Generally keep bedrooms and toys tidy, plus set&clear the table. They each help to or cook dinner once a week (younger one is 7).

They also know if they want to play a board game, go for a bike ride, build Lego, do craft etc with me, but I'm do housework... It's quicker if they help!

Anything for money, nothing otherwise! He loved doing the weeding the other day. He’s capable of putting a wash on, some basic cooking and putting away clean crockery/clothes.

We do a mix of everyone doing things because it's a team effort and paid chores.

All the kids have jobs (inc 10yo) that are theirs as part of sharing a family home. They do them on a 4 weekly turn so they learn different things and don't start whinging that their job is harder than someone elses.

Then other jobs they can choose to do if they want to add to their pocket money.

DS is 10. He sets and clears the table. Hoovers. Loads and empties the dishwasher. Feeds the cat. Strips beds and brings the washing down. Empties the bins (the bins in each room into the big bin). Brings the wheelie bins in when they are empty. Hoovers. Water plants.

Obviously he only does a couple of those things a week!

My 9yo makes his bed, tidies his room (with a huge amount of nagging!), lays the table for dinner and then wipes the mats after dinner and sweeps the floor in the kitchen, he occasionally polishes as well. He gets £2.00 a week.

11yo makes his bed, tidies his room and hoovers. He gets £3.00 a week. He sometimes cuts the grass or does weeding to earn extra money if he's saving up for something.

2.5yo "helps" with dusting, sweeping, unloading washing machine and tidies up her toys.

I think it's good to encourage them to help out, in our house I say to them we are a team and we help each other. They are all generally very helpful as a result and if I'm ever not well they would offer to do things for me etc. They also offer to help with the grass/weeding at grandparents for some pocket money too.

I have a 7 year old and a three year old (almost four)

They both have to make their beds, put their own clothes in the washing basket and set the table each day.

The 7 year old is saving up for an Alexa so he does a load of washing on Saturday morning for £3.50. And I mean the load of washing, he gets 15 items from the main washing basket, he puts it in the washing machine with the powder and fabric conditioner, he puts in on an eco wash and when it’s done he helps me to hang it out.

Tbh my husband is amazing but when we got together he was clueless - his mum didn’t believe children should do chores and honestly, he couldn’t use a washing machine, iron etc. My kids will not be lazy, incompetent. It’s all hands on deck in our house - I’m not their slave.

I will say the three year olds bed making skills aren’t great but that’s fine. He tries and I help finish it off!

I don't expect my DC to do set chores other than make their beds, keep their rooms reasonably tidy, and put toys away when they're finished playing. They are 11, 9, 6, and 3.

If I'm doing things around the house I ask them to help on an ad hoc basis, so sometimes I'll ask if they want to help me take the recycling out or out the laundry away and other times I'll do it myself. They join in with cooking as and when they want and I'll give them things to chop or stir and we bake together as an actuvity. The 3yo loves the garden so she always wants to help water the plants, cut the grass, and weed. When I'm doing DIY they all get a turn with the tools and shown how to do that particular task, they think it's fun.

When they do help out I don't pay them but I do thank them and every now and again I'll buy them a treat in recognition of how helpful they've been.

My son walks and brushes the dog, cleans the sliding glass doors where the dog rubs her nose up against them. He can make his own breakfast and bring plates to the sink afterwards. He vacuums both sofas. He picks up dirty clothes from his room and takes them to the laundry room. He cleans up after himself, like if he is snacking on the sofa while playing x-box he needs to pick it all up before he leaves the area. He shovels snow in the winter and is currently watering the plants for the neighbors while they are out of town for cash.

9 and nearly 11 year old are responsible for keeping their rooms tidy, including hoovering and putting clean laundry away.
They do or help out with various household chores such as setting and clearing the table, filling/emptying the dishwasher, general tidying, help with food prep, putting groceries away, sorting the recycling into the big bin, hoovering, washing cars, gardening. They can use the washing machine but that’s just when there’s a load in waiting to go as opposed to sorting through dirty laundry.

Probably sounds like more than it is in reality as most of it is “helping“ rather than “responsible for”. Not linked to pocket money.

Yanbu to ask

This is all great, thank you! Really helpful.