Hurt and upset

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My friend and I have know each other for 20 years we went to university together and both worked in a very niche industry afterwards. We are both married with four adult children each. Every time we meet she never ask about my life at all. My parents are elderly and have been poorly and I have some health issues (not overly serous thank goodness). My friend never ask how I am or my parents who she knows very well. All we seem to talk about is her life. There is zero interest in mine aibu to feel hurt by this? x

I have a friend like this. She really can't help it & is like it with everyone. She is interesting and funny so I except the limitations of the friendship.
Do you enjoy her company or is she a complete bore?

Yes she is interesting but I do wonder what I get out of the friendship. Maybe I expect to much x

What happens if you start talking about yourself/tell her things are crap?

I guess you either have to accept her for her flaws or end the friendship, either is a good option but I doubt she will change after all these years, people like that dont even realise they are doing it.

This would annoy me a lot. I have ditched all the people I knew who did this. I don't want to just be an audience. It makes me feel like the person only values me because I listen to them - I could be anyone.

I don't tend to try and push myself and any issues I have to someone who clearly not interested. Maybe I should talk more about myself. The odd occasion I have the subject is changed rapidly x

You should. My best friend doesn't really ask how I am. I don't always either, unless I know she's been poorly or something is wrong with the kids.

We just ... talk, either by message or face to face and blurt out the whole "my life is crap", "i have a boil on my arse" , " I think I want to go NC with my mum" and everything in between and then we go from there.

If you do tell her but she ignores it, changes the subject, dismisses it etc, then you'll know she's not actually a friend and feel free to dump.