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Are your children going for sleepovers at friends’ houses yet?

22 replies

mrsbeeton999 · 16/07/2020 19:14

DD 12 keeps asking to go on sleepovers and to have friends to stay as pre lockdown this was happening once or twice a week. I don’t feel happy about them sleeping in same room breathing the same air and don’t think it’s social distancing. She’s seeing her friends a lot but I feel this is a step too far at the moment. I can’t find guidance about this so would be interested to hear other views please

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Irelate · 16/07/2020 19:17

Yes, but outside in huge tent.

Lockdownseperation · 16/07/2020 19:18

You are allowed to stay over at other’s house as long as everyone maintains the 1m+ rule so either keeps 2m apart or 1m if everyone is wearing a mask.

Letshavesometea · 16/07/2020 19:21

Yes, we are in Scotland though and 11 and under do not have to social distance anymore

mamaduckbone · 16/07/2020 19:26

No, mine haven't been inside friends' houses at all yet - they've met up outdoors. Tbh that's more or less what they'd do anyway though.

catgirl1976 · 16/07/2020 19:32

My child is not going to friends houses full stop. He’s seen his cousin in the garden and separately his grandparents (socially distanced)

HathorX · 16/07/2020 19:36

No not yet. I would agree now, probably. But it hasnt come up and I'm not suggesting it!

MargotLovedTom1 · 16/07/2020 19:39

Dd is going for a sleepover at her friend's house in a week or so when friend gets back from her dad's. I (obviously) have no problem with it at all.

CoRhona · 16/07/2020 20:02

DD (12) has been invited for a sleepover (just her and the birthday girl) at the end of July, we've said yes. She has seen one other friend this whole lockdown.

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mrsbeeton999 · 16/07/2020 20:10

I think my issue is that she’ll want sleepovers with lots of different friends over the summer. If it was just her best friend I’d probably be more relaxed

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breakingthebank · 16/07/2020 20:12

Yes DD is having her friend round for a sleepover tomorrow

Foxinsocks1 · 16/07/2020 20:12

We’re starting them soon but it’ll be one child only not different friends at different times. Same for play dates, I’ll have them but only one friend for each child (different days)

Bellebp · 16/07/2020 20:16

Yes, I don’t see a problem with it, at the moment I think the risk is low. They’ve been stuck at home for such a long time, I feel they need a bit of freedom.

Itstheprinciple · 16/07/2020 22:50

DD stayed at her friend's house last weekend. Just her and friend as per the rules. I'm sure it will soon happen where she wants to stay with more friends. I think we will probably allow. DH is of the opinion if adults are allowed to go to pubs, why shouldn't the children be able to socialise a bit more, obviously whilst trying to be sensible about it.

AlexaShutUp · 16/07/2020 22:59

Totally unnecessary in my view. I think children do need to socialise, but there is no need for this.

Splattherat · 16/07/2020 23:07

No, definitely no sleepovers here I think just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

nettytree · 16/07/2020 23:57

My daughter had her friend over for a night last week. I allowed it as she has missed seeing her friends. She has done 1 day at school for the last 3 weeks, but it was only her and 2 boys.

cuntryclub · 17/07/2020 00:01

@mrsbeeton999

I think my issue is that she’ll want sleepovers with lots of different friends over the summer. If it was just her best friend I’d probably be more relaxed

Then tell her just that. You are not happy to allow her sleeping over at several houses but you are ok with her choosing one friend to start mixing households with. Your her parent, it's quite ok to say she can have a sleepover, but add in conditions

MajesticWhine · 17/07/2020 00:01

DD (10) has had one friend for a sleepover. And I would have no hesitation in allowing another. She desperately needs to socialise and that seems more important to me at the moment.

Bridecilla · 17/07/2020 00:06

We buddied up with my pal and her 2 kids about 3 weeks ago.

We're a couple and she's a single mom so not technically allowed but she was struggling and ds is an only child who has really benefited from seeing them. We assessed our own risks and were happy with the decision

ineedaholidaynow · 17/07/2020 00:27

@Bridecilla which country are you in as in England that is allowed?

clipclop5 · 17/07/2020 00:42

Yes - DD is an only child and hates being alone in the house all the time. Sleepovers are great for her mental health so she has been having them again over the past few weeks.

Bridecilla · 17/07/2020 08:30

@ineedaholidaynow we're in England. Weve home with what we think is ok rather than follow the rules. My Mum wants to have our son overnight and is moaning that it's within the rules but they've not followed anything - skipping round the shops every day, visiting friends etc. They're over 70. I've said no.

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