To feel totally drained by this friendship

[Eliza292]

A few months ago I pulled away from a friend as it all felt very one sided. She didn't act interested in anything I had to say and was weirdly competitive about trivial things. I feel like she likes to have the upper hand in the friendship and wants me to "chase" her. She didn't like that I pulled away and emailed me asking what was going on, I was totally honest and told her everything that was upsetting me. We agreed to work on our friendship, as I do still care for her. She was nice for a couple of days and now has reverted back to her old self, acting unintested and aloof, almost as if it is to get my attention? I'm too old for this shit and it makes me feel really insecure and drained. AIBU to end the friendship for good? Name changed for this.

No YANBU. Just stop making a effort to contact her.

Just leave it alone... No need to act, don't explain or chase. I'd have found the email strangely needy. She can suggest you hang out if she wants to...

Life is too short and friendships should be enjoyable, not intense and stressful.

Walk away. At least you gave it a go.

I agree, do nothing. If she contacts you again, you can say that your friendship is at an end, she doesn’t get to pick you up and put you down anymore, that is not friendship.

Unfortunately it's fact of life that some friendships, like any relationship, fizzle out. It's awful but sadly sometimes you get to a point where you cannot invest any more energy. If your friend keeps pulling away then she may be subtly trying to end the friendship.

Life is too short, if you come away from conversations and meetings with someone feeling drained then it's time to give up. Spend your time with those who make you feel good about yourself.

Just dump her.

Let me make the next contact, and if it never happens, you can feel relieved. She sounds like too much work by far.

Don't waste your time with people who are not interested in you

I don’t think you need to end it. It’s not Heathrow, no need to announce your departure
Don’t reply, hide her on social media. Life is too short for this shit. If it was a man, would you put up with this in a relationship?

Thanks everyone. I'm just not going to contact her anymore