Noisy neighbours

[BellyMama]

So my neighbours are this extended family of an elderly couple, a young couple and 3 kids. They don’t play loud music or anything but they drive me crazy and I’m not sure if it’s because I’m being crazy (v.sleep deprived, teething baby - who needs teeth anyway, surely she’d be fine with just 4, that’s the basics right) or I’m justified. So they have the tv so loud that I can hear every single word in every room of my house that adjoins theirs, which includes my daughter’s bedroom and my own. I don’t know what they watch but the dialogue is always really aggressive sounding! They also have 3 kids, the eldest of which is about 7/8 and they don’t go to bed until gone 10pm every night, at which point the youngest - about 2 - screams the place down and the other two run around banging and yelling (this is so loud I can’t hear my tv over it) which is probs why the little one cries I imagine, I couldn’t get to sleep through that noise in my house let alone theirs. They also have some sort of door or something that makes the loudest creak, I’m not being precious, it’s this that normally wakes my baby 3-4 times a night, I think the bathroom door maybe doesn’t have room over the floor or something and it drags?? No idea but it goes once every hour or so and is so loud you can hear it in the garden. One of them also coughs his guts up every morning to the point that it sounds like he’s vomiting 🤢 ok, that ones a bit precious but if it weren’t for the rest of it I swear I’d just deal and not be annoyed about it. So hit me - am I being unreasonable to expect them to turn the fuckin tv down to less than the volume required for the street to listen to it and to maybe wish their kids weren’t running round for 30 mins each night screaming? And fix whatever is causing the god awful creak?

Have you asked them to?

As frustrating as it is about the coughing/fetching and the kids crying, there isn't much you c an do there. You wouldn't be unreasonable to say something about the TV though, they possibly don't realise the sound travels so much and you could invite them into yours to hear it? That might then have the knock on effect of making them realise exactly how much you can hear and will make them pipe down.

They might not realise so asking them to turn the TV down is reasonable. Could you move your baby into a different room so she is less disturbed?

Sympathy OP. We have a very similar situation with a family next door of mum and 3 kids, two teens (one of whom fancies themselves a DJ and plays wall-shaking ‘sets’ sometimes, thankfully never late at night) and an 7/8ish year old - they all shout to each other through the house and stay up very late and the younger kid shouts and screams at 11pm at night. Over Ramadan they went fully nocturnal and were shouting up to 4am. Our Victorian terrace walls are very thin. Oh, and when the morning alarm goes off in the bedroom adjoining ours, no one seems to wake for ages so it beeps away through the wall.

However.

I also now have a baby, well toddler, who is the loudest baby I have ever heard in my life, and she shouts loudly at 5-6am and generally whines and moans a fair bit through the day (molar teething at the mo so double sympathy there). So I have not asked the family to pipe down and they haven’t asked us either. 😂

I realise that doesn’t help now but you might be glad of their tolerance to noise later!!

Only a two bed so stuck with the rooms. And don’t know if am being mardy so didn’t want to speak with them in case I am, may also be compounded that I don’t know if any of them speak English, 3 of the adults don’t I’m pretty sure but I don’t know if the young guy does, he’s very standoffish whenever I see him and have never got a response to a hello in the street 😬

@Melamine this is a fair point - by 9 month old is pretty noisy at the min 😂

The old couple might be hard of hearing - hence the telly. I would put money on them taking no notice of your complaint unless you involve the council.