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To think this is actually unsafe and not just me being 'boring'?!

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ThisIsMyBurnerName · 15/07/2020 17:15

I am at work today and this evening, DH home with DC. He sent me a selfie of them all in the car. It looked like he was driving at the time so I asked him if they were parked. No response but tbh I'd forgotten about it.

Spoke to him on the phone just now and he randomly said 'oh and don't be so boring.' When I queried this I got 'well instead of saying 'oh nice pic' or something you just sent me a snotty text asking if I was driving.'

So I asked if he had been driving, and he said yes but it was fine because the phone was on the little holder clip thing on the dashboard, so no difference to setting the satnav. I said it's still dangerous (unnecessary focus on/ fiddling with phone, plus in the picture he's clearly grinning at the phone instead of watching the road) and that tbh I don't think you should set the satnav while driving either, and should do it before you go. But at least if you do change it while driving there's a point to that! Taking selfies while driving just seems barmy. I asked him to promise not to do it again and he called me boring several more times.
So I hung up on him Blush.

To be fair I know I am oversensitive about being called boring as mother and sister tended to level that at me a lot as a teenager and young adult. And I shouldn't have hung up on him. BUT in this case I don't think I'm just being risk-averse, and that this is pointlessly dangerous! AIBU??

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 15/07/2020 17:22

Hmm.....

I think the best response to a nice picture of them is just to say "how lovely" or similar. If you have an issue with him doing what he has done, it should have been brought up face to face later. You didn't even say anything positive about the pic just straight with the criticism/questioning.

Him calling you boring is very rude - especially when it's related to safety. They are, after all, your kids and you want them kept safe.

I just think you picked the wrong time.

Valkadin · 15/07/2020 17:23

Your husband is quite clearly stupid. Plus it’s not boring is it. I loathe it when people use that to try and justify them being poorly behaved.

AMostExcellentStick · 15/07/2020 17:26

It's not safe and it's illegal. I'd have called him out on it too, one thing to do it on his own, another with kids in the car.

Spinakker · 15/07/2020 17:26

Yanbu. That's very dangerous and silly. I can understand doing it parked if he must but a selfie when driving seems stupid even if the phone was in the holder.

Riddo · 15/07/2020 17:29

YANBU. If DH did that I'd be furious.

BlankTimes · 15/07/2020 17:40

How many accidents are caused by drivers "just" taking their eyes off the road for a second, distracted by other things in the car?

I'll be very boring and supply some info about that.
www.rospa.com/road-safety/Advice/Drivers/Driver-distraction

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