Due to his dope smoking?
My son has just turned 18yrs and has smoked dope for the last few years. I have a 'zero' tolerance attitude to drugs in general, let alone in the house, and have got to the end of my tether with him. I have begged him not too, again and again, but he just says that 'all his mates do it'/ 'it is the norm nowadays' and that I am over reacting......
I have tried to get help from drugs charities, but they have been beyond useless, and have even considered going to the police as suspect he has dabbled in dealing......but am so frightened of the consequences for his future.
He is a bright lad but dropped out of doing his A levels, as his party lifestyle became more important. He is currently working in a supermarket, which has helped him focus a bit, but as soon as he gets home he turns to a spliff...and also means he has plenty of funds to feed his habit. If he is on a day off he pretty much smokes it all day - but denies he is addicted......?!
I found out at the weekend he tried to send some dope to a friend who was working in France (presumably a plan they cooked up together as the 'friend' couldn't access dope abroad)- the parcel was intercepted and both boys were very lucky not too get in serious trouble. But I had to deal with the 'friends' mother then screaming at me down the phone when she found out......
Our neighbours have also complained about the smell which makes me very sad as we live in a nice semi-rural area, where drugs are not the norm.
Sadly all his social group do smoke dope - I smell it on them when they come round and one has recently lost his licence as caught driving under the influence, but even that is not enough to make them re think their lifestyle.
So i am now considering giving him an ultimatum - if he wants to continue with the dope lifestyle he has to do it under his own roof....but am so scared if things get more out of hand and he continues down a path of self destruction.
So wwyd?