AIBU to just want sleep

[Pixiepants4]

Seriously trying to stop myself from crying into a ball of total melt down!!! How can a 21month old stay awake all day, zero nap, still manage to stay awake until 9PM and them wake up at 1am and still be wide awake at 4.40amlike its frigging party time!! I wouldn't even begin to mind if it wasn't a common occurrence but it's pretty much every single night with a few exceptions. And please understand I have tried pretty much EVERYTHING. It's a good job I love him so damn much because I dont think I could endure sleep deprivation if I didn't!!! FML. I literally cant deal with it much longer it it so bad of me to actually feel some resentment here even though hes just a baby. I was doing ok with the lack of sleep but these past few months have just done me in!

Ah, I’m sorry, that sounds awful. Are you in a position to be able to afford a consultant? The reason I ask is that I know a few who have used them to great success, but the main issue was that they were so tired they were struggling to think clearly in the moment. They knew what the should do but didn’t have the reserves to manage it. Whilst they could have learned a lot of it from books/internet they really benefited from having some support and someone in their corner.

Do you have some support like a partner or friend who can do some nights?

Also they say sleep begets sleep so is baby awake all night because of the lack of nap? Ignore me if this just isn't accurate for you.

What is the routine like in the daytime? What do you do to help baby fall asleep and do they sleep in with you or in their own bed?

Asking for a bit more info Incase I can suggest a few things.

Hugs

No advice, but it's a phase and it'll pass I promise! It's tough in the trenches though

I feel for you op. I’ve had two really bad sleepers and it nearly finished me. In one case we think it was very bad reflux but we tried absolutely everything including loads of tests etc to check for allergies, running him around for hours a day, more food, less food , list goes on.....
So while I can’t advise on your dc sleeping , I can on how you can cope.
Do you have a partner that you can swap over with. I used to go to our spare room and put in earplugs and maybe even take something to sleep (as I’d struggled after years of waking) and getting a solid amount of sleep in. It’s so much easier to tackle things when you have had a bit of rest. Does your dc go to nursery or childcare , if so could you take a few hours to just go back to bed, 2/3 hours can make all the difference. I agree that sleeps breeds sleep so if they don’t take a nap would they sleep in the car maybe during the day? This might help with their sleep at night .
I really empathize with you, my youngest is 3 and finally sleeps all night and my worst sleeper now sleeps the most and sleeps in etc so you will get there op!! It’s so difficult and I know that feeling of there’s something your doing wrong etc when the truth is some kids are just awful sleepers ( I’ve had three and my first was a brilliant sleeper so it’s nothing to do with parenting)
You need to focus on how you can get some extra sleep now and then you can try and tackle it .