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To think being called thick is bullying

12 replies

feelinsulted · 14/07/2020 08:40

I have learning disabilities but I was lucky enough to get a job in a factory, however my boss keeps calling me thick which I find offensive and I spoke to him about it and he's said it's not bullying at all.
A couple of people at work have agreed it's not offensive so AIBU to feel insulted?

He said he just speaks as he finds and I know he gets frustrated with me but I don't see why this is ok. I'm really not enjoying my job because of it and wondering if I should just look for something else.

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Macncheeseballs · 14/07/2020 08:43

Of course its offensive

Somethingorotherorother · 14/07/2020 08:44

This sort of thing is why HR exists. Document every time he does it, ask him not to, and if he continues go and speak to HR.

HarlinRay · 14/07/2020 08:46

Yes it’s absolutely bullying. If you are a member of a union you should take advice from your representative, otherwise contact ACAS.

Not that you asked but you are clearly not thick. You write clearly and concisely which isn’t easy and it’s a skill that most people lack completely. You may have LD but I would consider doing some job skills counselling. Your talents may be better suited to something other than factory work.

Fundays12 · 14/07/2020 08:49

It’s absolutely bullying and totally unacceptable. HR would be horrified by it. Document every time he has done it for a couple of weeks and your response (particularly when you ask him too stop) then let HR deal with him.

Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 08:52

Of course it is bullying. He needs a swift kick somewhere very tender

feelinsulted · 14/07/2020 08:53

Thank you. I'm glad I'm not just being over sensitive because I had this sort of thing at school but had some good friends that would stick up for me.
Now I don't have that safety net I guess it gets to me more.

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notthemum · 14/07/2020 08:56

This is disgusting. It most certainly is bullying and there is no excuse or reason for it at all.
I am sorry that you are being treated this way. Please do what other posters have suggested, log it and go to HR. He must not be allowed to do this. Take care.

donquixotedelamancha · 14/07/2020 08:58

Join a union now, you are going to need it.

Write a short letter (or better email) asking him to stop. Get a notebook and write down time, date and what he says. Especially write down about when you asked him to stop.

After you've got several instances (more is better but it's how much you can put up with) ask the union to take action. Take it as far as you feel able because bullies like this make life hard for everyone.

Craftycorvid · 14/07/2020 08:58

It absolutely is bullying. It’s completely unacceptable. It’s direct discrimination as well. Are you in a union at work, or have an HR department?

feelinsulted · 14/07/2020 09:32

I don't know I will have to ring the office and speak to them or email.

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crazytapirlady · 14/07/2020 09:41

What a horrible man! This is definitely not okay. Please complain about him if you can, you deserve so much better than this.

thepeopleversuswork · 14/07/2020 09:51

Of course its bullying. You need to start documenting these incidents now and pick up with your HR department. Please don't tolerate this behaviour!

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