AIBU to be sick and tired of being told I HAVE to go out and get back to 'normal'?

[Peterbishopssarcasticsmile]

I know the economy is tanking
I know we need to accept how things are currently for how they are
But people are really starting to annoy me by telling me I HAVE to get on with things and go out to eat and browse shops etc to save the economy
DH and I can't go out to the pub or whatever because we can't get anyone to babysit due to still having to social distance inside
I'm aware people aren't following this and we need to balance our own risk, but we are doing exactly that: we are waiting for results for DC to see if he has a condition which could potentially mean he's very vulnerable to Covid if he has it.

Because of this we can't really take him with us if we went to the pub etc either

It's starting to really bug me that friends and family are beginning to act like we are being hysterical and OTT because they've gone as back to normal as they can including ignoring a lot of the guidance

Of course I miss life, of course I want to do fun things again but I can't and I don't see why I should force myself to do something I'm not comfortable with just to appease or to 'do my bit'. It's the government who've fucked this country and the economy not your average Joe

Sorry I know this is a rant but I've just come off the phone where I had more 'youre being a ridiculous you can't be a hermit forever, this country is going to be ruined if everyone thinks like you' and I've had enough

Surely you can just remind people your son could be very vulnerable? A bit annoying but doesn’t have to be a big deal.

I do. Ive made this very clear but am told from August the government have said the shielding can meet people etc again, so I'm going to have to get used to it

Sorry people are reminding me that the government have said this

It's just the attitude that I'm making it a bigger thing than it should be that's really starting to rile me up and the 'people like you' tone im getting a lot

You are not being unreasonable. You don't have to go shopping, to a pub, restaurant or any other public place until you feel ready. No one has a right to tell you what you should do. You are not under any obligation to go out.

YANBU.
I’m in a similar position wrt an extremely vulnerable child. I’m fed up of having to defend and repeat myself constantly.
I have no confidence in Boris or his advisors either, so I will risk assess and do as I see fit for my child’s sake. I will probably end up getting short with those that continue to throw the economy and ‘Boris said it’s safe’ in my face

I’m with you OP, I’m currently pregnant so all the government advise is to follow social distancing guidelines extra carefully, but I’m not going out anywhere and not meeting anyone. I know I always catch any virus that’s going even though there’s no medical reason I’d be more susceptible and I’m just not willing to take the risk.

My in laws are getting really frustrated that we won’t meet them because we let a washing machine repair man in to fix our machine so they think we’re being hypocrites but we literally opened the kitchen door so he could enter then stayed in another part of the house until her left and cleaned everything thoroughly and we needed a washing machine that worked so it was essential.

It's so frustrating isn't it?
Even if I didn't have a potentially vulnerable child surely it's up to the individual to decide when they feel comfortable doing something?

I think lockdown and this whole thing has made people so quick to tell each other off and jump on each other. I don't give my family grief for merrily going against guidance when they feel like it but they have a real bee in their bonnet when I decide to do my own thing and balance my own risk instead of trusting what Boris says

I'm with you entirely OP. My ex announced last week that he is taking our DC abroad this weekend on a resort holiday as a last minute booking. I'm concerned that its very premature and not safe to be doing this so early on but the majority of people I've mentioned it to have told me it's fine and we need to get back to normal. Ex just shrugged and said 'the government said its fine so'. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Will the government give a shit if my DC get Corona as a result? No they only care about the economy.

If you have a potentially vulnerable child I would be as careful as you are, in your shoes.

'the government says it's fine to' is being parrotted out so much..and yet look what a shitshow the government has been running!
I don't understand how anyone can trust what they say. They only say it's safe to because they need to salvage the economy.
I feel for you @flowerlessorchid I hope they stay safe and have a lovely time

Its not you. Its nasty fuckers. Sadly there is some weird superiority bullying thing when it's deemed ok to take the piss or make sarky remarks to covid cautious people.

Loads like it on mumsnet.

I don't get it each to their own. I got called hysterical theither day when I asked someone to cover their mouth when they cough and move away from me. It was someone with a continuous cough stood less than 5 inches from me in a queue and they just cough all over me.
I was firm but polite but 2 peopke tikd me to get a grip!

@Peterbishopssarcasticsmile

'the government says it's fine to' is being parrotted out so much..and yet look what a shitshow the government has been running! I don't understand how anyone can trust what they say. They only say it's safe to because they need to salvage the economy. I feel for you *@flowerlessorchid* I hope they stay safe and have a lovely time

Thank you so do I!

Not sure what you're reading or listening to but people are still catching it every day and you are perfectly within your rights to protect your family in any way you want. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Can't imagine why someone would almost bully a family member to go out, it's your decision.

Well clearly it isn't safe to 'get back to normal' otherwise there wouldn't be spikes as there is in Leicester at the moment and potential spikes in other places.

This virus is still there in spite of what some people some to think.

Seems sensible to me to do whatever you're comfortable with.

The government has just announced that we're all going to have to wear masks in shops soon; that's not 'normal'.

It's nonsense for people to talk as if we can all get out there and do normal things because the government has now said it's okay because they want to get the economy up and running again.

I suspect what is going to become normal, in the not too distance future and for some time to come, is that everyone is going to be expected to wear masks everywhere.

We're far from out of the woods yet.

You don't have to explain yourself to other people OP. You just have to do what's right for you and your immediate family.

Yanbu. I find it bizarre that people are so quick to follow government advice when we have one of the highest death tolls in the world from COVID. Surely that should make people at least question whether the government has a clue what it's doing!

Sadly, a lot of people aren't only rushing to do whatever the government says is ok, they're taking it a step further and going beyond the government advice. Meanwhile, those of us who feel a more cautious approach would be prudent are criticised for being paranoid.

@alexashutup couldn't agree more. So many people just seem totally blind to the fact that our death and infection rates have been horrendous
Not to mention the fact the WHO has reported the worst week for infection spread globally
And people are merrily thinking it's over with?!
@lovemelongtime bullying is exactly what it feels like
@pigsdofly agree. I just hate feeling like I'm mad for being cautious