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Baby dad drama’s! AIBU???

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Justttc97 · 13/07/2020 17:34

So. We split up over 2 years ago before baby was even born and he has him once a week because i work during the week so my son goes to nursery so just would t make sense for him to stay there during the week as it’s a 20 minute drive to he’s house and he doesn’t drive I don’t want my child going on public transport during a pandemic neither does he.

So anyway it was He’s night on the Saturday and I asked if I could pick him up Sunday morning and he said he was going to keep him there til 3 so he could spend time with him. Come Sunday morning at 8am I get a message can you get our son once your dressed because I want to go shopping.

Okay so I wouldn’t normally mind right but he is currently furloughed so can go shopping any other day of the week why does he need to go on the day he see’s he’s child and was claiming he wanted to spend time with him - so in my eyes he’s putting a shopping trip before he’s child.

Him constantly messing up arrangements is a normal thing and we argue majority of the time not infront of our son it’s over text if anything so I have asked him if we could put a parenting arrangement together and if he would sign it so atleast we have something in writing but he said no because I am being pathetic.

Please I want ur honest opinions even if I’m wrong I dontknow If I’m over reacting because this isn’t the first time I feel like our son isn’t he’s first priority.

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Youreadthebabybooks · 13/07/2020 17:35

Sounds like you need to apply to court for a child arrangements order maybe x

weddinggong · 13/07/2020 17:36

Don't pander to it.

Him: Can you pick him up now because I want to go shopping
You : nope sorry I'm out until 3pm

Him: can you change the day I see him to xyz because I changed my plans
You: nope sorry I have already made arrangements around that time

KarmaStar · 13/07/2020 18:41

Yanbu but you need to get this through the courts else you will have 18 years of this op....good luck,he seems delightful!!

lyralalala · 13/07/2020 19:14

The only thing with a court arrangement is that it cannot force him to spend more time with his child.

My ex took me to court for every other weekend and one night in the week (which he was offered already). All this meant was that we couldn't make any plans every other weekend just in case he decided that weekend was one he would stick to the order

I would just be busy when he calls you to collect early in future.

Justttc97 · 13/07/2020 20:09

Thank you everyone! I really appreciate it

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