Aibu that PMT is just fucking shit?

[CanWeComeIntoTheOutNow]

Life's not great. Not awful, could be worse but today well. Fuck me. I'm miserable. I can only see the worst. No motivation. Everything feels pointless. It's like a palpable bubble of misery sitting over me.

So vote YANBU if PMT does this shit to you, too
YABU if you've not experienced it.

And any tips for getting through other than eating my bodyweight in refined sugar gratefully accepted.

Even worse - period won't get here for over a week so most of the time I don't connect the dots and realise it's PMT because it's the only symptom and nowhere near the actual event.

That’s really tough. Have you tried evening primrose oil? It really helped me

And I know the answer you want is to sit on your sofa eating hobnobs and watching Bridget Jones but you will probably feel better putting some trainers on and going for a walk. Listen to a podcast too. Will help

Yes I agree, I’m a ball of anxiety over nothing today and I can’t focus. It’s total crap!

@ShirleyPhallus
Done a bike ride with son this morning. It didn't work. Neither did the cake or shitty telly. Hence Mumsnet. Misery can at least seek company...

its awful.
I found agnus castus helps

Will look into that. Anything that helps feel less like this is worth a try

Another recommendation for Agnus Castus. Helps with the sore boobs too!

For me, the only thing that really affects me is that my breasts get very heavy and tender. It's tolerable with a bra on, but once it's off I'm having to cup my hands under them and carry them!

You might want to speak to your Dr if you feel unable to cope - I did and it turns out I have PMDD (PMT Hulk style) and now take antidepressants everyday to deal with that one horrid week! Works a treat though

Nope. Never had PMT and my periods have always been non-problematic tbh.

I use the Clue app to track my periods - I find that it helps knowing that the reason is PMT and the app can predict that for me. T took me years to realise that the cycle starts from the first day of your period not the last. I can never quite wrap my head around the fact that I'm already a week in at the end, so I always expect the symptoms a week later if that makes sense.

Same here OP - I have a few days where I feel down, distracted, anxious about work and life, tired, lazy, cant be bothered. Then I realise what time of the month it is but continue to feel the same way but at least with an excuse. It sucks.

Yep, it's awful. I get agonising boob pain and bloating for over 2 weeks in every month, then into the joy of a week long period, so I have one week a month where I actually feel good. Is being a woman great

I've just ordered some Agnus Castus on the recommendations upthread.

I had the most severe PMT ever. Moodiness, boob pain, back pain. It was relief to eventually start my period, I had my ovaries out due a medical reasons and it was the best thing ever going through early menopause, i do get symptoms but its nothing compared to the PMT each month. I don't miss it at all. I did find going on the mini pill for a bit helped.

What does the mini pill involve? I could use a new contraceptive method too so if you could fill me in...?

On the plus side I had a little nap on the sofa cuddling my daughter earlier and when I woke up the worst of the depression had subsided. So phew. Just the physical symptoms now and they're less stressful.

I just acknowledge that it’s “that time of the month” and ride it out. I was crying watching Toy Story last weekend !

Unfortunately, I also get a huge rise of hormones before ovulation as well which send me into a worse emotional spin than PMT. I literally cannot think about anything else but sex for about 48 hours and it drives me insane. I struggle to engage with anything else. It sounds great but it’s really not and I end up in tears with frustration. I think it’s because of my age as it’s been like this for a year or so. I’m 37.

Unfortunately DH can’t always oblige and to be honest would probably only put the feelings to bed for an hour or so before I get the urge again.

I’d rather have PMT!

I've never ever had any problems with that. I've been on the combined pill since I became sexually active, so didn't have proper periods anyway. Obviously the withdrawal bleeds were much lighter and I had no problems or side effects at all.
Came off the pill in July 2015 to ttc. The proper periods I had after coming off the pill and actually conceiving I hated, because I wasn't used to a proper period after years of being on the pill.
I conceived in November 2014, gave birth in September 2015. Obviously I had my bleeding after giving birth for 3 weeks, then a couple of weeks later I had my first post birth period (I was exclusively formula feeding). I went back on the pill at my 6 week check, and have only had my withdrawal bleeds since then. My previous pill I was on before ttc no longer agreed with me, so I switched to a different one. Had no problems since.
I've since learnt I can skip my break and have less withdrawal bleeds. So for the past 2 years or so I've take my pill back to back for months, and now have just 2 or 3 withdrawal bleeds a year. I've gradually increased the number of months I go without a break. It's now 6 months (last time I did 7 but that was too much). So I take it back to back for 6 months, have a 7 day break and my withdrawal bleed, then start taking it again for 6 months. No problems at all. I love it, no pointless bleeding every month when for me there's no need at all.

Osiris - same age as me. And I get a bit rampant from the day my period starts through to about 14 days, then a bit more moderate. Then no interest whatsoever for the 7-10 days before I'm due. To the point where my boyfriend now gears himself up for feast or famine situations on a cyclical basis