Ok so where now? *trigger pregnancy loss* I need help to lose weight

[YeraWizzardHaree]

Right so we've just lost our 15th pregnancy in 3 years. My DH wants to give up and I don't blame him. We live in Manchester so we've been referred to st Mary's hospital where they did some tests and concluded I was fat and that's the issue. I weighed myself today and I'm 20 stone. I feel horrific so if you're here to weight shame me get in line because I'm first! I

I am now trying to lose weight but where do we go next? There are no genetic reasons I am fucking up as a woman, so why?! Are there any private tests I can pay for? Thyroid was fine, everything was fine except folate. I was born with spina bifida but they said that's not relevant. So it's all down to me, and me being fat. I have failed 15 pregnancies by being fat. This has finally hit me now. I need to change and I want to now. I really really want to.

I have downloaded les mills and I have weights so that should help but I feel so guilty I've caused all these miscarriages.

Please help. Where do I even start?

So how do I lose weight properly? And keep it off. I don't want a diet I want to change my life and never be here again

Thank you. I will ignore any weight shaming posts but feel free.

Hi OP. So sorry for your losses. No judgement here, I'm overweight too. Please don't be hard on yourself.

Losing weight is all about calories in vs calories out. Check out Team RH on Facebook. Their 'plan' is tailor made to each person and no food is off limits. It's calorie counting but it's straight forward to do. You get a calorie allowance according to your weight and how many steps and workouts you do. You will be surprised how many calories you're allowed. It won't be 1200 like my fitness pal. More like 2000 + .

I've lost 14lbs in nearly 2 months following this ..may be a bit slow but I say slow and steady wins the race. But my fitness is a million times better and I'm feeling amazing.

Hello OP, I'm so sorry for your losses. We had four in a row. No genetic abnormality, we had a test to confirm. For me, it was definitely my weight and the amount I drank. I cut right back and lost a stone. I was also under a lot of stress, professionally, and once that was brought to an end I literally felt a weight lifted from my shoulders.

All those factors combined, for me, were the reasons for our losses. Once I'd eliminated them (to one extent or another) I finally became pregnant and had DD two years ago. She's our only child.

No shaming from me, weight gain creeps up on you. I wish you the very best of luck.

Sorry for your losses and please don't blame yourself.

I was a casual but frequent drinker - used it to relax and sometimes it creeps up on you. I read a book called 'The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober' and quit drinking for a year, whilst losing two stone. Watch out if you cut down your drinking as it made me crave and scoff sweets and white carbs before I realised... I drink again now but less and it is genuinely more of a pleasure than a habit or need.

However, it wasn't just giving up booze but being more thoughtful about food and having more energy. It was loads of little choices - like take the lift or the stairs, big slice or little slice, fruit or biscuit. It's dull at first but then I started to enjoy it - more energy and higher self esteem what's not to like. Good luck xx

@YeraWizzardHaree

Right so we've just lost our 15th pregnancy in 3 years. My DH wants to give up and I don't blame him. We live in Manchester so we've been referred to st Mary's hospital where they did some tests and concluded I was fat and that's the issue. I weighed myself today and I'm 20 stone. I feel horrific so if you're here to weight shame me get in line because I'm first! I

I am now trying to lose weight but where do we go next? There are no genetic reasons I am fucking up as a woman, so why?! Are there any private tests I can pay for? Thyroid was fine, everything was fine except folate. I was born with spina bifida but they said that's not relevant. So it's all down to me, and me being fat. I have failed 15 pregnancies by being fat. This has finally hit me now. I need to change and I want to now. I really really want to.

I have downloaded les mills and I have weights so that should help but I feel so guilty I've caused all these miscarriages.

Please help. Where do I even start?

So how do I lose weight properly? And keep it off. I don't want a diet I want to change my life and never be here again

Thank you. I will ignore any weight shaming posts but feel free.

I am not weight shaming you but being obese means your body can’t absorb folate well and having Spina Bifida means lack of folate is even more likely to cause problems for you and the baby.

Honestly just lose the weight. You don’t have to go all the way down to a normal BMI straight away. You could be fine even in the overweight range (BMI 26-28). To be honest if it turns out you need IVF you will need to get down to that weight anyway so best to start now so you aren’t wasting any time.

Every time you want to give up remember you're creating a healthy host for your baby.
Good luck x