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AIBU?

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Would you say something RE neighbours children?

10 replies

Technicoluordream · 12/07/2020 22:15

NC because of the obvious, I’ll save you the boring details!

My neighbours seem like nice people but don’t really care about parenting their children and generally let them do what they want. Lockdown has made this 10x worse. I felt really sorry for the kids at first but now I can’t help but roll my eyes at every screech or bouncing of a ball. They’re two boys around 8 and 10 years old. Luckily the soundproofing inside the houses are fantastic and can’t hear a peep unless we’re in the family bathroom where it sounds horrendous but we can get away from it. I know it isn’t their fault as I’ve neither heard nor seen any form of parenting from my neighbours. Not even so much as a ‘be quieter please’ whilst in the garden. The neighbours just sit there chain smoking, drinking beers and talking to their mates on loud speaker completely ignoring their children. Can hear the cracking open of cans over and over all day and the fag smoke comes into the house. I don’t actively watch what they’re doing don’t worry, I’m not a curtain twitcher! It’s been 4 solid months of crazy noise from 6am-12am every single day. I don’t know how they have so much energy on so little sleep! I’ve put up with it purely because it isn’t their fault they don’t have any ‘rules’ but it’s honestly draining getting kept up until the early hours and then woken by their children splashing around and screeching in the lazy spa at 6am. They’re in that lazy spa from 6am to 12am most days, even when it’s torrential rain. With the odd break for food and a game of football on other neighbours driveways. Wouldn’t be so bad if I didn’t have a newborn and a 4yo. I’m incredibly lucky if I get 3 hours broken sleep because of the neighbours. Our bedrooms back onto the back gardens and can hear conversations word for word so screaming children until the early hours isn’t ideal. DH and I felt very awkward the other day when they started making very loud imitation female sex noises in the back garden which was quite concerning considering their young ages. I would expect that sort of behaviour from a 15 year old boy, not an 8 and a 10 year old. Sounded like the parents were in the garden with them at the time and didn’t appear to address their behaviour in any way.

My final straw was the other night when the neighbours children were out on the cul-de-sac running around with nerf guns from 10pm until midnight with no break. The shouting, screaming and manic laughing was so loud we could hear it from the back of the house with the windows shut. It’s lovely that they were having fun but I don’t think it’s acceptable past 11pm. Wasn’t like it was a hot day either, rather miserable weather and very dark out as there’s only 1 street lamp on our road. The driveways are open plan so they were running up and behind everyone’s cars. Hiding behind our bins, hitting living room windows and people’s cars with the bullets. I went up to bed to try and get some sleep. Glanced out the window when I was closing my curtains and wasn’t surprised to see the neighbours kicking back in their lazy spa getting drunk with music playing whilst their children were causing havoc unsupervised out front.

AIBU to have a ‘polite word’ and if so, what do I say? I wouldn’t dream of allowing 8 and 10 year olds out in the streets until midnight.

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Wolfiefan · 12/07/2020 22:19

They sound awful. But I very much doubt you having a word will result in anything other than you getting a mouthful of abuse. Call non emergency police next time kids are out until midnight?
Move? Seriously. That sounds so stressful.

Technicoluordream · 12/07/2020 22:21

I would consider moving but we’ve only been here since January and it’s a lovely house in a good location. I’m really not sure how I can approach them as I don’t think they’ll accept it

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Homemadearmy · 12/07/2020 22:22

Agree with the previous poster, I don't they no saying anything would achieve anything sadly. the parents are aware of their children's behaviour and they don't care

HearingMyOwnVoice · 12/07/2020 22:34

I think you need to start logging it. I have a nosey neighbour but luckily when we do reach the end of our rope and go round he apologises and turns it down.
I know all to well how living next door to someone like this makes you hyper aware of all noise. I've been known to relax in the garden with ear plugs in.
Contact your local council noise dept. Ours has an app to start the log.

PurpleRiverIsland · 12/07/2020 22:35

I wouldn’t say anything as it sounds like the parents aren’t the types who are going to make any changes on your behalf. Buy some ear plugs. The foam ones. I wear them a lot and I can still hear noise in my house (if kid wakes etc) but not from outside. If in doubt put a baby monitor on and make sure it’s on full volume on your bedside table and you’ll definitely hear your own kids. Other than that, consider double/triple glazing. I’d definitely plant some very tall growing bushes on the boundaries to block them out of your view. Also, hope the schools reopen fully in sept!!!

NotEverythingIsBlackandWhite · 12/07/2020 22:47

I answered YABU but only because I don't think a quiet word with them will stand a chance of having any impact.

The sex noises, and not being picked up on it, is a little worrying. If the children are outside from 6 a.m. until 12 a.m. it doesn't sound as if they are watching porn. Do you think they hear their parents dtd and are imitating her? Would it be worth letting their school know about the behaviours and the lack of parenting?

Technicoluordream · 14/07/2020 07:43

Honestly they’re making me feel slightly homicidal at this point🤣 The wife has a habit for putting washing on the line as soon as it’s daylight, 5-5:30am. She doesn’t work, her husband WFH though (before the pandemic). They think it’s a wonderful idea to take the yappy little fucker of a dog out with them resulting in waking both me and my baby. Utter nobs. I would move but love the house. Why is it so hard for them and their offspring to do things during sociable hours

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 07:55

Some people have no filter. If you say something to them they might tone it down or they might think you are being unreasonable and make more noise.

Do they annoy other neighbours in the vicinity? Perhaps if you all got together and complained they may listen.

Other than that I would consider moving if it looks like being a permanent thing for years to come to save your sanity.

Charleyhorses · 14/07/2020 08:46

Really excellent double glazing, ceiling fans and background noise is the answer. We have new glazing and it's practically sound proof (We also live next to a train line). Even in summer I shut the window, put on the ceiling fan, tell Alexa to play rainfall sounds, and I swear world war 3 would break out. You are replacing their sound with other sound but give it a few nights and it works.

Charleyhorses · 14/07/2020 08:51

And I wouldn't confront. We had arsehole neighbours and their horrible kids for a few years. The type who would knock little kids sandcastles over for fun. Watched their 6 year old placing glass under my husband's car tyre in the street. At 6, where would you even learn that? My 6 year old was watching Thomas the Tank engine at the time!

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